If I Adopt A Kid, Should I Tell Them They're Adopted?

Question

I want to adopt 2 kids(a girl and a boy) should i tell them they were adopted, and at what age?(i want to adopt them from ghana.)

Answer 1

Yes. They have a right to know.

Answer 2

absolutely tell them.  I am adopted and have 2 adopted children.  I was told long before I even remember being told, and the same with my children.  Adoption is nothing to be "ashamed" of, and if you don't tell them almost immediately then they may grow up and think that there is something wrong with being adopted.  If you never tell them, and they find out, then it will even be worse. TELL THEM IMMEDIATELY.

Answer 3

If you don't tell them, eventually they are going to find out and it is going to cause a HUGE argument and they would be very upset with you for not telling them in the first place. Tell them when they are old enough to understand it.

Answer 4

when they are older ps..Are you african?  

Answer 5

Oh good grief. Are you a parent already or not? You said you had two children already in your other question. IF that were true you could answer these questions with a little motherly common sense...You do not sound old enough to be a parent

Answer 6

I think that each situation is unique...but generally speaking I would tell them.  If you are going to tell them find simple ways to incorporate it into their life.  If I were child I would hate to go through 10 years of my life thinking one thing only to have that belief ripped out from under me.  Make telling them somewhat of a story time.  Let them know they may not have come from your body, but they are a part of your heart.

Answer 7

Yes! You should start from a very early age telling them they were adopted. It shouldn't be a secret.

Answer 8

I think its easier to tell them at an earlier age.  It seems that the older they are the more betrayed they feel, but if you tell them at an early age it seems that they accept it more and its no big deal.

Answer 9

You have plenty of time to decide on that, since you're clearly still a child yourself.  You already said you had two kids, which was obviously a lie.  Grow up a bit before you make future parenting plans.  

Answer 10

tell them at a somewhat early age that way they wont be all like "OMG IM ADOPTED!!! WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME!?!? I CANT BELEIVE IM ADOPTED OMG!!!" when they are 20 years old lol

hope this helps

Answer 11

uhhh, YEAH!!!!

Answer 12

yes, i would tell them when you felt in yourself that they were old enough to understand i don't think there is a age limit really it's all about there maturity level and how you think they can handle the new. but i would defiantly tell them

Answer 13

Yes you should, I think between 9 and 11 is an appropriate age, depending on the maturity of the child. If you leave it too late the child may resent you for not telling you, but of course they have to be old enough to understand. It is important they know so they can contact their biological parents if they wish.

Answer 14

Yes! When there the right age to know which I would say is around 12