If I ask a woman with kids out, should I offer to pay for the babysitter as well?

Question

I'm sure there is no "right" answer here but I would like to hear some opinions.

Thanks,

Bill

Answer 1

Bill~

What a creative idea!  Wow!  That shows a very generous spirit.  Even offering to split the baby sitting would be a wonderfully thoughtful gesture.

I think for a lot of women it would be like bringing a dozen long stemmed roses!  

Guys need to be more chivalrous and more creative in this day and age.  We tend to over look these kinds of details.  

Go for it!   She may decline and that's fine.  But it'll make a lasting impression.

Answer 2

I would do so only if you sense (or know) that she is struggling financially.  If she can't really afford a babysitter, not paying might be a deal breaker.  On the other hand, please be careful about getting romantically involved with a (divorced?) woman with children.  Those children should always come first, and some men cannot accept being second.  But, if she does not put them first, then you would be getting involved with a woman lacking in character.  Just something to consider.

Answer 3

you shouldn't because if she couldn't pay or didn't want to pay for a babysitter she might not have accepted the date. but you are very gentlemanly!

Answer 4

I think that is a nice gesture. To me that would indicate enthusiasm to take her out! And by offering to do so once, I do not believe she would therefore expect the same from you every time. I think its worth a shot

Answer 5

Bro, just the fact that you're even thinking about doing so makes you a great catch.  I say do it and wow her.  When I was a single mom, I couldn't afford a sitter anyway, so I always had to turn guys down or work around the custody schedule. Even that was unpredictable because sometimes my son's bio dad didn't want him or brought him back early.

Answer 6

No I don't think you should. She would accept if she really wants to go out with you, so she should pay for the babysitter. That means she is willing to put money out so she is able to go out with you. =]

Answer 7

I think it would be a nice thing to do and it might make the woman feel good.But if she didn't have the money to pay the sitter herself she probably wouldn't be going out, so its up to you.

Answer 8

Don't date a woman with kids.  No good can come from it.

Answer 9

It is customary. And leaves an impression that you do respect her and the fact she comes with a child.

Answer 10

no dont pay for ****

Answer 11

No.  Don't make her get used to some habits you might regret in a future.  Specially when it comes to money.

Answer 12

You are certainly under no obligation to do so--they are her kids after all--but I think if I were a single mother I would appreciate such a gesture, as it indicates a willingness to accept to kids, and a sense of responsibility.  On the other hand, it could also be misinterpreted as thinking that she can't afford to take care of her kids, something you definitely don't want to imply.  I'd wait a couple of dates before making such an offer so you know how she'll react.  If it's the first date, such an offer would probably just be awkward.

Answer 13

Sure if you want to take her out. Don't be a cheap scape