If I bond my bf out of jail, will my collateral be returned when he shows up for court???

Question

Im not sure how any of this works, my bf's bond is $2,000 and I would have to pay $300 plus collateral and a bondsman negotiated putting up $300, now if my bf shows up for his court date, will my 300 colateral be returned?

Answer 1

Woah ... whenever I read a post that discussing "bonding out" or "bailing out" or "visiting an incarcerated boyfriend" red flags go up all over.

It drives me nuts that some women can be so blind to the manipulation, deceit and violence that accompanies so many of these "bad boys."  Women love their idea of "fixing up" the bad boy, but hate it when they are cast assunder for another bimbo that pops up a few weeks later.  Those around them see the guy for the jerk he really is, but the woman in the relationship is blind to all the warning signs.

Now, that being said, it is possible that your boyfriend is a genuinely decent guy that got busted for something that will never ever happen again.  However, as a professional who have worked with offenders and their families for over a decade, I have seen this same scenario played out over a hundred times, and I have NEVER seen such a scenario end on a good note.

First, most guys that get arrested continue to get arrested.  Often they have addictions, anger problems or other issues that causes them to get into problems with the law.  The one stablizing force that they have in their lives are often the women they are with.  That's great, but because their lives are inherently unstable they will rarely be there for you when you need them.  In short, they take you for granted and when you begin to complain and finally put your foot down they will drop you so quickly your head will spin.

What I tend to see in these types of relationships are guys that use and use and use.  And when you are finally all used up they dump you and find another woman to use and use and use.  Although I could be wrong, I have never been wrong in the past when it came to these types of issues in other relationships.

Your idea of bonding him out is another way he could be using you and it is possible that he will get out of jail and not show up for Court and no amount of pleading on your part will get him to go, even when pointing out what you will lose for his failure to appear ... he simply won't care.  

You may care for this guy deeply, you may even love him, but he is probably bad for you and again, in my experience it is the women who are hurt most often.

The concern that I have for you is that the Court process is lengthy and will require several appearances for your boyfriend over the course of 6-8 months.  If he fails to appear for any one of these Court dates your bond or bail could be forfeited!  What happens when and if the case begins to discuss the very possibility of several days or months in jail?  Do you think your boyfriend would be willing to go to Court, knowing that he could be in jail for months?  Who is going to actually pay any fine that arises out of this?  Is it going to be your boyfriend ... or will it be you!

Although I could be wrong about your boyfriend, and I hope I am, I am very afraid that this will end badly for you.  I highly suggest that you think with your mind ... not your heart.  We all want to trust our hearts, but our hearts often tell us something different from what our minds are.  Our hearts work on emotion, our minds on information, remember that and I am certain that you will make the right decision.

Should you decide not to post bond / bail, your boyfriend can still get out.  Given that the offense does not appear to be too serious he should be able to get out on an OR bond in a few days.  He may be angry at you for not posting bond, but in the event this relationship does goes south, you won't be out a significant amount of money. ---------------

Stop thinking with your heart and think with your mind ... dust that old cerebrum off and THINK!  He posted bail, and then got RE-ARRESTED a week or so later, odds are good he'll get busted again if you bond him out.  If he were to do it again, you would lose the $300 collateral and could be on the hook for the whole $2,000!

Answer 2

Some pretty good attempts at answering but none exactly correct. The original $300.00 for posting the bond you will NOT get that back. Upon closure of the case by either sentencing or court order, the $300.00 for "collateral" will be returned to you. Now, depending how big of a lerk the bodnsmand wants to be, he can deduct certain fees from your collateral and then return the balance, if any, of what is left after doing so. Just to be clear, the case must be CLOSED. Meanign, the defendant MUST complete ALL requirements set forth by the court. If he misses one appearence date, or fails to make one payment after making arrangements, then his case will go into warrant status and the bodnsman can, and usually will, declare your collateral forfeited and you will get nothing back.

Answer 3

The bailbondsman usually keeps 10% of the amount he puts up. If he put up $2,000, he's going to keep $200.

Answer 4

You will not get your money back, that is their fee for putting the bond up for you.  Leave has a.s.s in their.  Arrested again, while out on bond?!?

Answer 5

DON'T BOND HIM OUT OF JAIL.  I've seen this on Judge Judy all the time.  You'll most likely get ripped off.  Let him stay there and have him find a close relative to get him out.

Answer 6

I think so

Answer 7

Is the BOND $2000 or is the BAIL$2,000?

That makes a difference.

If the Bond is $2,000 and you put up $300 in cash plus collateral to secure the balance of the $2,000 then your collateral won't be returned to you until you pay the remaining $2000 in cash. Which you can say bye bye to.

Answer 8

Don't do it...

find someone new that doesn't need bailing out.

I assure you will end up happier...

Answer 9

Don't do it.  It's not your responsibility to get him outta the clinker.  You shouldn't put up your things, and your money, for him if he's in jail.  That's what his family is for...have him call his parents, grandparents, siblings, cousins, 2nd cousins twice removed...it is not your responsibility.  I know you probably love him, etc., but this is opening a whole new can of worms.

Answer 10

It will be returned to you AFTER the case is settled in court, not just after his first appearence. It would also be returned to you if you pulled his bail and he goes back to jail to await trial.