If I can't attend a wedding, do I still send a gift?

Question

I've been invited to my cousin's wedding. It is across the country and the cost of travel makes it not possible for me to attend. I have sent the RSVP indicating that I will not be able to go. What is the proper procedure concerning a gift? Do I send money or a gift card? For how much? Thanks.

Answer 1

of course you send a gift.

unless you want to give the couple a 'message' that you really hate them.  

Answer 2

A gift would be a very nice gesture. A gift card to Walmart or a Home Store would be best! However much you want to give would be fine. I would go with at least 25 to 50.

Answer 3

Well for a wedding I say yes send a gift card.. I think $ 30 to $50 bucks should do it.. It just depends on how close you are with  them..  

Answer 4

Yes definitely, as he your cousin you can send a reasonable gift in spite of a card or paper material. you can opt the delivery facility from the online stores and send a beautiful gift for them. C'mon dont be late...

Answer 5

Of course you send a gift, unless you don't like your cousin, LOL. But seriously yes send a gift ? Do you know where your cousin is registered ? If so and they have a online company you can order a gift online and have it mailed directly to your cousins' home. Or if you don't want to have to pay for the extra shipping a handling, just sent a card with money or gift card. If you are going to send money or get a gift card try not to be cheap, if you can afford too send at least $50 dollar or more it you can afford it. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 6

Yes the proper thing to do is send some sort of gift.

Answer 7

since its family, a small gift, gift card, or cash would be nice to send with a card.  something around $25-$50 if you can.  

Answer 8

Yes, you still need to send something.  A gift card maybe at where she is registered.  How much is really up to your budget.  

Answer 9

Theres no rule that says you have to send a gift but it would be nice. I think either a gift card or cash is fine. Don't send cash in the mail though. Send a money order or postal cheque or something. With a money order, the couple can cash it instantly but if it was to get into the wrong hands, it can't be cashed as the person cashin it has to show photographic ID. Registered mail is an option also.

Answer 10

yes it is considered proper etiquette to send money or a gift card. if you are not attending, i usually send under $50. if it's someone i'm not close with, i send $30 or so.

Answer 11

Yes, it is proper to go ahead and send a gift. If the bride and groom are registered anywhere, you need to buy a gift off of it and send it to them through the mail. If they are not registered, then a simple gift card somewhere will suffice - for any amount.

If you're not sure if they're registered, try giving them a call to see. They will appreciate it, believe me!  

Answer 12

Only if you want to - a gift is a nice gesture, never an obligation. You should spend or give them an amount that you feel comfortable with, which will depend on your budget and how close you are to your cousin.

You can look for something off the couple's gift registry. Call up your aunt and ask where they are registered. Then check the store's website to find the registry list - you can have the gift shipped right to their home.

If you prefer to send money, send a gift card to someplace like Target or Macy's, where they can find housewares, or to someplace that they are registered. If you prefer to send money, send a check rather than cash - it's more secure in the mail.

Answer 13

Yes, sending a gift would be the courteous thing to do, since they took the time to invite you (even though you live farther away).  

The amount of the gift depends on how close you are to them and what your budget is.  If you are very close to them, I think that a gift of at least $60.00 would be decent.  A gift close to $100 would be ideal.  

If you are not too close to them, then a gift of $40-45 makes sense.  If you are able to purchase the item online and have it shipped to them that would be an even nicer gesture.  If this is not possible, then buying a gift card (maybe one that can be used on anything, like Visa or Mastercard) would do.  

Answer 14

I usually send a gift, and usually a gift card simply because that's easiest to mail.  But you don't have to send a gift, if finances prohibit you from doing so, then just send a card expressing your congratulations.  But, a gift also doesn't have to be $100, if you can only send a $20 gift, then send that.  Your cousin will appreciate anything you can and do send them.  

Good luck!

Answer 15

Receiving a gift from you would mean more than how much you have spent. We all understand these days with the high cost of things that not attending doesn't mean you don't want to or care. At times can be a very hard decision.

Post off a gift card to your cousin, the amount determined by what you can afford and how close you are to them.