If I gave a gift at the bridal shower, do I take a gift to the wedding too?

Question

If I gave a gift at the bridal shower, do I take a gift to the wedding too?

Answer 1

If the bridal shower is a themed shower, such as a lingerie shower, tool party, etc. then yes you should take another gift to the wedding.

If the shower is generic and you went to the shower and took a gift then you are certainly not obligated to take another gift to the wedding. You already bought the couple a gift to help them start their new life together.

Answer 2

Yes. The gift at the bridal shower is for the bride, the gift at the wedding is for the couple. But you should not burden yourself financially - a small gift is perfectly acceptable. It's a thoughtful gesture, not an admission fee.

Answer 3

I think you give something practical like dish towels or kitchen utensils to the shower and a gift from the registry. Unless you are my sister-in-law where nothing in her registry is under $50.00. =)

Answer 4

Yes, yes, yes.  I know gifts are gifts and they shouldn't be expected, but yes, people expect a gift at the shower and at the wedding.

Answer 5

Yes, it is proper. Most bridal shower gifts are for the bride, the wedding gift should be for the couple. Neither has to be expensive. A decent couple gift could be as simple as personalized embroidered towel set. Purchase your towels and contact a company that does embroidery work.

Answer 6

Contrary to what gals are posting, you already gave the couple a gift at the bridal shower.  Just get them a card for the wedding. You are under NO obligation to give them two gifts or a gift and money unless you want to.

The greed just blows me away.

Answer 7

It must be where you live, because I would never go to a wedding without a gift even if I gave a shower gift, and noone in my entire family would go without a gift.  So a guest expects a free meal and all you can drink and not even give a gift?  why even bother going to the reception?   It's not like a reception is free for the couple, it costs thousands of dollars to feed their guests.  And yes, you can argue that you are there to support them on their special day and be there for them, but do you really care if they are getting married?

Answer 8

yep, maybe something not too much if your first gift was quite abit of money!

Answer 9

yes of course. usually for the shower you give a gift off the regestry and for the wedding you just give cash.

Answer 10

Yes, it is customary to give a gift for both events.

Answer 11

Yes, sorry I know it sucks...

Answer 12

NO!!

That is the whole point of a wedding shower! To "shower" them with gifts for the couples new start...

the WEDDING is just a ceremony that they invite you to share in their day and happiness with..I promise you they do NOT expect two presents!!

Answer 13

Yep they're two differnet parties.  Just another way to suck you dry

Answer 14

Well I think most people take a gift to the shower and if they want to they give money for the actual wedding. You should atleast get them a card though

Answer 15

Yes!

Answer 16

If you can't afford a twenty dollar gift (or so) then just give them a card congratulating them on the fact that the event has finally happened. They are really just focusing on the honeymoon at that point anyway.

Answer 17

Yep.