If I keep having doubts about my boyfriend, is it God's way of telling me to get out of the relationship?

Question

Whenever I'm with my boyfriend, I just don't feel right. It's like I am not attracted to him. He always wants to kiss me, but I just don't have a desire to. Whenever he is away, though - I miss him. I do love him, and care so much about his life; however, is this normal? We've been dating over 2 years, but it's like I just keep questioning whether it's a good idea to stay with him. Are these doubts God's way of telling me something? Help? Please.

Thank you.

Answer 1

No - thats your subconscious telling you to get out of the relationship.

Give yourself some credit - obviously, you arent happy. You love him, but you are no longer IN LOVE with him. People grow apart, especially when they are young.

It is completely normal that you care about him and love him, but simply arent in love and attracted to him any longer. Its time for you to move on. And do not worry - he will get over you eventually.  

Answer 2

I don't think God really cares who you are going out with.  I hope that he has bigger things to worry about.................

Answer 3

God MAY be trying to tell you something BUT when you pray to God you must believe that you have already received the answer then thank him for it. NO DOUBTS no questions asked.......:D

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you're in love with the idea of being with SOMEONE, but not in love with him. Let him know, and if it's possible for you 2 to remain friends I'm sure you will, just know he might be offended and not want to see you again.

Answer 5

You should just be friends.  If your body is telling you that you don't want to be with him after two years...you shouldn't be with him.  It won't get any better.  You miss him when he is away becuase you probably miss the attention, or the comfort that goes along with having someone who knows you well around you.  Break up and find someone new.  You will be happier in the end.

Answer 6

Eh no...you just don't like him end of story.Dump him cause you just leading him on which is mean. =]  

Answer 7

perhaps it's your way of telling you you want out. I don't think god is overly concerned, (no offense intended). You've been with him a long time and he is a companion and friend as well as lover. If you don't want him as a lover but do want to keep him as a friend that would explain your reactions. Problem is that most guys don't (are unwilling to or unable to) backpedal and go back to being friends if once they were lovers. On the other hand I'm not involved personally and am only working with a very limited bit of info. You have years more of info on the situation so you'll just have to make your own decision.

Answer 8

No, it's not gods way of telling you anything, it's your own sense, a lack of chemistry with this guy and some basic wisdom that he's not right for you. If you care about him, stay friends. But you're clearly not meant to be with him in a romantic relationship. I could have told you that after reading your description of how you feel, and trust me when I say that I'm NOT god.

Answer 9

I dont think it's God. I think that you've probably out-grown your relationship and it's time to move on. Familiarity doens't equal love. So the fact that you miss him when he's gone and that you care about his life doesn't mean that you love him. I wish you the best.

Answer 10

If your gut is telling you there's something wrong, listen.

Answer 11

You can miss him and love him, but not be in love w/ him, seeing as how you do not desire intimacy with him. (I don't mean a sexual relationship, but the kissing and holding and closeness part of the relationship.) You may just be used to having him around and being in a relationship, and love his friendship and nothing more. If you have prayed to God and still you feel no more closer to your boyfriend than when you started praying, that could very well be your answer. On the other hand, have you followed the God's Word in your relationship? Have you conducted yourself in a Godly manner? Have you remained abstinent? If not, perhaps you are feeling guilty for not waiting. If you have remained abstinent then (that is wonderful) maybe God is telling you that this guy is not the one that He has picked to be your life helpmate. A help perhaps, but not your helpmate. Can you see spending the rest of your life w/ this guy, making major life decisions w/ him? Having his children, making his meals, washing his clothes, waking up and going to bed every day with him, and putting up w/ all his flaws and idiosyncrasies? If not then you have your answer. If you do value his friendship, make the break-up as painless as possible. Try to explain how you feel and do not become hateful or bitter towards him. No doubt he will be hurt, but let him know just how much you value you him. It will not be easy, but not everything in life is. May God bless you in this matter and give you the words to say.

Answer 12

Yes,yes and yes....

Answer 13

I don't believe like this about God and relationships.  I believe we get much free will but God might alert us to something sinful we are getting involved in.  You don't provide much information here.  Have you always felt like this or is it something new?  You could have intimacy issues or it could be a lack of attraction.  I do think it is wrong and unfair to him to lead him along if you're not in love with him.

Answer 14

Yes.  Or it just might be something called common sense and intuition.  Nahhh...  It MUST be God telling you.  I mean really, who uses common sense and intuition anymore?

Answer 15

It appears that you have a very healthy emotional connection to him. However, you clearly are not physically attracted to him or you are just disinterested in sexuality.

It is beyond my knowledge to offer you advice on this other than to earnestly let your boyfriend know about your concerns. What I can tell you for sure, though, is that this can easily be explained well outside of the realm of the spiritual/supernatural.

Answer 16

Share your worries, if you truly believe they are valid (you dont have to pester him every time the wind changes).  You owe that to him at least.

Answer 17

If you are leaving this in God's hands...then absolutely, you are getting confirmation that he is not the right one for you.