If I lie to my employer that I need to step down from my position cuz dad is ill will they want proof?

Question

I know.... this is a scum bag way to go about it but the deal is my employer will NOT let me voluntarily step down from my position because there is no one able to fill my void and I am most tenured in position. Truth is, the stress is literally killing me and my relationship with my wife. The stress is unbelievable and obviously finding anther job right now is tough although I have been looking. I know others have stepped down in the past for similar issues so I thought for the greater good of my family and my health this may be the best route to go (aside from being karma bombed). Has anyone else done something similar and CAN my employer legally require proof of a family member's medical record outside of FMLA leave?

Answer 1

Without having to specify just tell the truth. Say " My wife and I are having some family problems and I need to address these problems. The best way to do this would be for me to step down from my current position and handle this matter.

Answer 2

How old are you? You sound like your about 14. Give your boss two weeks notice. He doesn't have to have a reason as to why you are leaving. You just tell him that the stress is to much, your unhappy with the job and you have another job lined up. Tell him he has two weeks to find another person. If he can't find someone then that's his problem. But, be a man. Don't lie. I hate it when men are wimpy.

Answer 3

If you quit, they can't ask for proof.  If you want to 'step down' and return to your previous position, that's a different thing.

Answer 4

Unless you signed a contract when you accepted the job, you don't need your employer's permission to quit.

Now, if you're asking your employer to move you into a different position within the company, then he can say "no" and there's nothing you can do.  But if you're trying to resign from the job AND from the company, he can't stop you.

FMLA does not cover every company in the US.  The company must employ 50 or more employees for every working day of a 20-week period.  FMLA also covers just 4 circumstances:

    *  for the birth and care of the newborn child of the employee;

    * for placement with the employee of a son or daughter for adoption or foster care;

    * to care for an immediate family member (spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or

    * to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.

From the Dept. of Labor's FAQs, a question about proving medical necessity:

Q: Do I have to give my employer my medical records for leave due to a serious health condition?

No. You do not have to provide medical records. The employer may, however, request that, for any leave taken due to a serious health condition, you provide a medical certification confirming that a serious health condition exists.

Q: Can my employer make inquiries about my leave during my absence?

Yes, but only to you. Your employer may ask you questions to confirm whether the leave needed or being taken qualifies for FMLA purposes, and may require periodic reports on your status and intent to return to work after leave. Also, if the employer wishes to obtain another opinion, you may be required to obtain additional medical certification at the employer’s expense, or rectification during a period of FMLA leave. The employer may have a health care provider representing the employer contact your health care provider, with your permission, to clarify information in the medical certification or to confirm that it was provided by the health care provider. The inquiry may not seek additional information regarding your health condition or that of a family member.

Here is the Department of Labor site for FMLA:

http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/

http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/regs/complian...

http://www.dol.gov/elaws/esa/fmla/faq.as...