If I never had love...and never will what is my point in life?

Question

If I never had love...at the age of 36...I probably won't ever due to my lack of confidence. and etc..I am thinking of taking a earlier exit from life. What is the point of life if you never experience love?

Answer 1

dont take your life for a reason like that. come on ive been down that path for an actual serous reason and i can tell u its not worth it. sh*t be like jesus he lived and never had love

Answer 2

don't fret honestly i have seen people find love at age 80+ don't worry.

although you know you have to out some effort into it if you someone to notice you and i completely understand the lack of confidence factor but what works (i swear) is if you act like your confident and act like your outgoing etc.. make something in your brain make you those things you pretend to portray! even if you go into the mirror for 5 minutes out of everyday and tell yourself nice things (even if you dont believe it) you will soon start to portray all of those things.

and stop! you're so young! you have the rest of your life to look forward to love and think of it this way..if you took your life early how do you know it wasn't meant for you the day after or the year after or the hour after you took your own life for you to meet your future love/partner ..you never know what life has in store for you tomorrow and the day after that...THAT'S THE BEAUTY IN LIFE!

=)

i hope you clear your head

good luck!

<3

Answer 3

Hey Left,

You may not have had love but you cannot possibly say you never will.

My advice would be to start by doing your best to completely forget about the issue for a while. Set some goals that will help to improve your confidence. For example, go to the gym and tone up. It will help you feel more desirable and give you pride in yourself. Meet as many new people as possible but without an agenda. You may not believe it but everyone is attractive to someone. I know how hard it can be to do these things when you are feeling defeated but look at it this way. If it doesn't work, you have lost nothing. If it does work, it could be the best experience of your life. I am a pretty ugly guy and I find it tuff to meet women for that reason and the fact that it impacts pretty hard on my confidence but it is still possible to meet women. The better you know a girl the less relevant looks are anyway. This may not be your problem but any problem can be overcome.

Try to be optimistic. You may have to "put yourself in harm's way" at some point and risk getting hurt but try not to give too much mercy to your fears. Recognise the things about you that are great and reasons why you deserve to be loved. There are reaons I assure you, no matter how you feel about yourself right now. Stand tall and let your self be seen. Sooner or later someone will definately take a shine to you.

I stuggle with confidence issues myself. Mail me if you would like to discuss it further. Taking your own life can be tempting but remember that it is not something you can undo. You have obviously lived through some bad times, it would be a shame to check out before getting to the good stuff.

Hang in there brother.

Answer 4

Have more confidence and find a man/woman in your life... if it's hard for you to find someone outside.. try the internet! (but becareful) Make sure they are real first.. pictures (live in same city) call them when you fully trust them..make sure they give there number to YOU 1st! (myspace/facebook seems to be the safest) Less safe = Craigslist.com.... Well if you don't want to find love at all... maybe you can adopt a child or get a dog! ...well I don't know...! Your 36... you might think youre all old or whatever but it's never too late to find something you'lll truly love in life!

Answer 5

Love never comes easy and never too soon. This love never finds anyone easy enough. You do have a higher purpose in this life whether u realize it or not.  The right person is out there waiting for you, trying to find you too. Your counterpart partner won't find you if you give up. We are all matched and favored to find love, so don't ever give up, love doesnt find anyone easily. You still have much time and many years of good life to live.

Begin to change your thinking, remember we all think we're not confident at times, but change this initial thought. Your thought process will change your emotions about things, which will influence your decision making, then ultimately your actions. Your not as bad as u think u are, no one is perfect, but know we're all meant to be someone, to find someone and let someone find you. U are important to someone else in this world too. Don't give up. U can do it.  

Answer 6

it's to have fun and enjoy it

for me living life is doing crazy things like bungee jumping and parachuting from a plane, and love would just be an added bonus

you still have time to do everything you wanted in life, and once you stop caring about love, you might just find it

p.s. there are websites that you can go on, it's not lame or anything its actually really common, the people i know who married after meeting on an internet website seem to be really happy so give it a try, just don't lie about anything or else it won't work

be yourself, thats all it takes =]