If a SAHM were paid a salary ,should she not then pay 1/2 the household expenses?

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Answer 1

I find this totally confusing.  As a stay-at-home wife, I am paid quite adequately.  My husband pays the mortgage, the bills, and all our household expenses, plus I get spending money for myself.  What more could I want?  Do you mean I should pay the household expenses out of my personal spending money?  What difference would that make?

Answer 2

Not only that but cut down on the recreational shopping.

Answer 3

tricky.. You could argue since she is chipping in half he should also do half the household child care labor, but then it would have to be said that her pay should be cut in half because she is no longer a full time stay at home parent.

If stay at home parents we paid to stay home and look after the children and house that's there job. To require the working parent to then do half of the stay at home parents job would be discriminatory and an end to the marriage.

  Because it would amount to the stay at home being paid full time Will working part time and the working parent being paid for one full time job and not being paid for a part time job.

     All I know is if I was married and was the working parent I would be annoyed,than angry then trip to a councilor or attorney if she didn't pay a fair amount or if she did but still expected me to do an equal amount of house work.

Because if I was the stay at home parent I would want to use what ever financial resources I had to help contribute to the family not my personnel spending.

    I suppose that's why I am a firm believer against staying at home. Creates too many problems.

But peoples reactions to this question is an interesting way to judge people's idea of what fair is or even,equality is.

Answer 4

Yes.  And money should be paid from her salary into a retirement account and FICA.

Answer 5

Yes, I do think she should have to.  I'm against that theory.

Answer 6

as long as the husband did half the housework, it goes both ways.

Answer 7

Absolutely!  Then her hubby should kick in with more childcare, houseold chores, etc., if he's earning only 1/2 the household income.

Answer 8

If a SAHM's (or SAHD's)  job is to do housework and his/her salary comes out of this, then it is not the employed partners duty to do 1/2 the housework. Logically, if the SAH partner only does half the housework, then he/she would have to go to work with the employed partner and do half of that job too. You can't draw a full salary out of a job you only do 50% of. Two jobs = two salaries which should both go to bills equally. The employed partner owes the stay at home partner nothing in terms of domestic chores, just as the stay at home partner would not owe the employed partner any hours at work. They would still have to split the bills evenly for it to be fair. One person doing half of the others job while getting no personal income from it is irrational.

Answer 9

I don't look at it that way.

We take ALL of the combined income and divide it into 3 accounts  1) a joint account for paying household bills, 2) His personal money and 3) Her personal money.

The exact amounts allocated to each account are mutually agreed upon by the couple. One partner may contribute more in actual dollars and cents, or one partner may contribute a higher % of earned income.   Whatever works for them.

They need not divide their money in ways defined by people outside the relationship.

Answer 10

I would gladly give up half an hour of my time to do the household chores if the SAHM paid her half of the household expenses.

Answer 11

Sounds logical.

Answer 12

Absolutely.