If a family with 15 kids (12 still living at home) moved into your neighborhood, what would you do?

Question

and I'm looking for serious answers, not "move to Canada" answers. what would you honestly and sincerely do? What would you do if they moved into the house next to you? thanks.

Answer 1

What business of mine would it be?  Unless the kids were disturbing the peace, why would it bother anyone?

And by the way, a family with only one child could be more disruptive than a family with 12.

Answer 2

*One* person can cause misery in a neighborhood, while 15 may not be too noticeable... It just depends... If they're trouble-makers, or seem like they're not being taken care of, I'd call DHS or the the appropriate services... In many places, though, there is a limit on how many people you can have in a house, so it probably wouldn't matter what *I* would do... I have a nosy, obnoxious neighbor, who would probably make it *his* business.

Answer 3

be nice to them. i mean if they were rude kids, and a rude family then i would most likely tell them, and talk to them, and most likely not associate with them..  if the are unconsiderate of a family

Answer 4

Nothing so long as they kept track of their kids, respected my property and weren't rowdy...nothing more than I'd expect of any other neighbors w/ any or no kids.

One thing I wouldn't do is offer to babysit--LOL!!  :)

Answer 5

Why does it matter?

Answer 6

I would welcome them kindly. The last thing they need is grouchy neighbors when they have 15 kids (well, 12). I kinda know how they feel. I have 7 kids, and I'm pregnant with twins. I would help them out, if needed. =D

~Kate, mommy of 7, and 22 weeks with Shane and Sydney!

Answer 7

As a mom, I'd be happy, more kids for my kids to socialize with and play with!!!

As a kid I'd be excited and happy to see such a large family and would likely be amazed.  I love big families since I can remember and I'd totally be all over them on moving day LOL.

Answer 8

I wouldn't do anything. I am not sure what the problem is - do you assume that they are going to be trouble or a nuisance? If so, I think you need to maybe wait a while before assuming anything.

Edited to say: sorry, it looks as though I was the presumptuous one! In that case, I would think that most people's views here will have set your mind at ease in that the majority of people will have no negative thoughts about your family at all.

Answer 9

Whats the problem?  If you are moving to a neighbourhood then anyone there must be used to other people being near by.  So twelve still living at home, why would that be any different than three, four or five still at home, just a few more.  Good luck with any move you make.  Lets hope your new neighbours are sensible, normal, mature adults/people.

Answer 10

I'd be excited! We have seven kids, and are surrounded by singletons...the kids are so completely different lol!

Answer 11

If the kids are very respectful then I wouldn;t mind. I have my kids play with them. more kids in the neighborhood more fun for my kids.

Answer 12

um... welcome them with open arms, it is their decision how many kids they have who am i to judge them? No one has the right to judge anyone else just because of something like that!

Answer 13

What could I do?  Nothing.  I would be a little concerned but I would not rush to judgment. If the kids are respectful, considerate, and good most of the time then it would be an improvement.

Right now, we have obedient older kids but they are jerks. They mouth off and use bad language nonstop. Their parents aren't any better so what else would you expect.

Don't worry.

Answer 14

I would be thrilled!! Including my kids ther are only 5 kids in the area 3 of them are mine. I would love for something like that to happen. Talk about plenty of friends for my kids to play with!! So Cool!! I want a family neighborhood so bad but all them families are foreclosing and having to move to apartments.

Answer 15

welcome them to play with our five kids ( hopefully 6 soon).... and offer to carpool to school

Answer 16

Who cares?  It is none of your business.  As long as they are respectful to the neighborhood, by not being loud past a certain hour (10 usually), and not destroying property, it isn't up to you.

EDIT:

Oh geeze, sorry! I don't think neighbors will care, it seems as if your family is respectful, especially if you're asking this question.    It wouldn't bother me one bit.  Just more people to meet!

Answer 17

depends if they take good care of their kids? if they are nice people why is it any of your business, they are just a different type of family

Answer 18

I wouldn't forge a connection with them and I would be rude to them.

If they like you, you'll be stuck babysitting and they'll be round your house alot!

Answer 19

As long as they are decent people and well behaved then I would treat them the same as any other neighbors.  Heck, I'm sure there is someone old enough to be a babysitter in the group and they have built in experience too!!

Answer 20

There's nothing for you to do.

Unless some of them want to move into your house it's really not your business.

Answer 21

Introduce myself and bake them some cookies or something. Why should a large family bother me? They have a right to live wherever they want just as I do. :)

Answer 22

Depends on how well behaved the kids are and how early they are outside playing and how well the parents respond to neighborhood complaints.

I know several families who had 8-12 kids.  One was a NIGHTMARE because the parents never supervised the kids.  They were all over the neighborhood.  Since they didn't get enough food, they had a habit of walking into elderly people's homes and stealing their food.   Eventually, CPS was called often enough that the kids were taken.  

Another family was my co-worker's (9 kids) and she just had no respect for her neighbors. Would send the kids out at 7:30 in the morning to play despite the fact that her neighbor was a night worker.  They could have solved the problem by keeping their kids to the other end of the yard in the a.m. and suggested that they run a fan for 'white noise.'  

All the others had a great relationship with the neighbors.  It probably helped that the kids helped the elderly neighbors as well, but still, well behaved and supervised kids go a long way to make a neighborhood pleasant.

Our family was large, and we got on quite well with the neighbors. We had a lot between us and the cranky neighbor, while our elderly neighbor loved having us girls over.  We also helped them with garden work that was too tiring for them.

Answer 23

I'd make them cupcakes ... take them over and see just how old the kids are. So that I'd know who could babysit or who could play with my children.

Answer 24

I'm not sure why you think you have to "do" anything.  Has the family done something to interfere with your life or are you just assuming they are going to be a annoyance?  Since you didn't mention they've done something wrong, I can only assume you are being judgmental.  My advice on what you should "do" is...mind your own business.

*Edit*

I would hope people will treat you and your family the same as they would any other family.  Good luck!

Answer 25

i would say "holy c**p. thats alot of kids" (not to them, but to myself).

i wouldnt really do anything. i would be kind and civil to them.