If a friend sent u the below txt, would you considered rude and offensive? or would it be a wake up call?

Question

I'm sorry if this sounds b$tchy or petty. but if i hadn't txted u today to say hi and how r u; would u have done the same, ever? please don't take this the wrong way. just something i noticed, u never keep in touch."

Answer 1

I think it's rude and stupid, is this person your man or your girlfriend to demand such attention from you?  First of all, it's a very passive-aggressively worded statement.  Second, if you aren't romantically involved with someone, why would you care if you went a day of two and didn't hear from them.  Aren't you allowed to have your own life, or be busy sometimes?  Are they supposed to always be on your mind or something?  That's just craziness and the beginnings of some serious diva-drama.  You do not need that!

Answer 2

I think your friend is just hurt.  I think she feels that your friendship doesn't mean as much to you as it does to her.  She feels that if she did not make the effort to keep in touch you wouldn't.  I don't think she was meaning it to be rude, just to show you she is hurt.  

Answer 3

I don't think it's rude. Being rude would have been blowing you off forever because you don't initiate contact. I think the person cares about your friendship and wants you to be fully engaged in it.  

Answer 4

It would be an apparently much needed wake up call I think.  

Answer 5

It's not rude and offensive, but it is a gentle prod.  Your friend might be a little hurt that you don't put in the effort to keep in touch.

Answer 6

Definitely a "wake up call".

Answer 7

This could be one of many things.  If you truly never call them and never make an effort to stay in touch, then they are just trying to give you a wake up call.  But they could be demanding and disrespectful of your time and wanting more attention from you as their friend.

Either way, they don't appear to be a very close friend.  You don't contact them often, and they resent it.

Answer 8

I'd set their car on fire for that!

Answer 9

it's not rude.

at all.

just a way to carefully tell you to contact more often.

Answer 10

just a call to hit her up more often

Answer 11

You asked the person not to take it as if you were being petty. I think it's a wake-up call to the person. You were gracious at the end there.  

Answer 12

NO iTS NOT RUDE....

THEY CLEARLY ASKED THAT

U DiDNT TAKE iT THE WRONG

WAY....THEY'RE PROBALY

JUS A SOMEONE THAT

CARES ABOUT U N WANTS

TO HEAR FROM U...

i WOULD SAY YEAH iT

iS SOMETHiN LiKE A

WAKE UP CALL....

Answer 13

It sounds like the friend who sent it is too emotionally needy and I would be annoyed.  

Answer 14

id consider it a wake up call.