If a guy 17 to 24 can answer me this question?

Question

I liked this guy for a whole year before he began to like me..i mean he would notice me physically but we had nothing at all until a year after...then we spent two years basically being "friends with benefits" because he "did not want a relationship"..of course when we did go out and stuff it was secret like nobody but our friends would know..he always told me that i was different than other girls he had been with and that he did not want to ruin that..now we were 2 yrs like that and well of course many ups and downs..many more downs than ups lol but w.e..after those 2 yrs he met this girl and he basically ended our "sort off relationship" and 1 week later started going out with her...what went through my mind was simply.."i thought he did not want a relationship?"..now he keeps coming back to me...and after a yr of being with her they are having bunches of problems.. what do you think of this?? my friends say he loves me and not her..but idk is very confusing..any advice is good...

Answer 1

I feel he's just trying to get the best of whatever he can lay his hands on. He'll come back to you, then the same cycle will repeat; he'll fall for someone else.

If you're thinking from a relationship point of view, this guy doesn't make the cut. What makes you think he won't have anything going on (like another "secret" thing) when he's with you?

I'd advise you to move on

Answer 2

sorry not a guy, but your case interested me a lot. if he only used you for having benefits with you but after two years of that and your still not good enough for a relationship with him, then he never saw you that way. he is feeding you lines especially that your different and he didn't want to ruin it. thats so you don't leave and he can still have his fun with you. he obviously wants a relationship otherwise he wouldn't have jumped in one with the other girl while you two were kind of seeing each other. your totally just his back up. don't put up with it. he'll only treat you the way you allow him to. thats why he does it. you let him come back. take your self respect and cut him off and find a good guy that actually wants you and treats you amazingly. you deserve better

Answer 3

this guy is a player and hes definitely not good enough for you. you can be friends with him, but if he asks to be more than friends just do the same that he did to u. srsly im having serious doubts about whether you should have a relationship with him. be careful.