If a guy ask to marry you, is it ok to say?

Question

I dont want to have s*x for a child i want to adopt one, is it ok to say that? and that i dont want s*x

Answer 1

s*x is not only the way to create life but it is also a way to express love for one another. It is a very magical thing between two people who are in love. There is passion and a closeness that you just can't get anywhere else.

If you are not READY for s*x, then I would wait on getting married.

Wanting to adopt a child is a wonderful thing, and I hope he shares your feelings. Birth control would be the way to stop that, and you could continue to have s*x with him.

Answer 2

I guess you can say that, but he might say he changed his mind after that one.

Answer 3

no.  guy marry you to get s*x.  if you no be putting out, then why guy want to marry you?

Answer 4

If you don't want s*x, the answer is no.  I would also add that you stop dating.

Answer 5

s*x is something that usually goes hand in hand with marriage.

Why don't you want to have s*x?

Answer 6

It's definitely ok to let him know you want to adopt. s*x, however, is usually to consumate the marriage. I don't agree with having a sexless marriage, but if that's your decision make sure you completely discuss this with your partner before getting married.

Answer 7

I think your meaning you don't want to get pregnant, you just want to adopt when you are ready? AT least I hope, because s*x is great. If this is the case, you should just tell him, because if he loves you it shouldn't matter.

Read this... http://health.ninemsn.com.au/article.asp... one part talks about the importance of s*x.

Answer 8

I think you should take about that prior to getting engaged.   If you are just telling him that now, then you two really don't know each other that well.

Answer 9

I would be totally upfront about this with the guy.  The big question for me is, why are you marrying him?  Why don't you want to have s*x?  Do you want to have s*x with anybody, or is it just him?

Answer 10

you should definitely say both of those things before you answer him, so that he knows what he is getting into.

Answer 11

If two people consent, no matter the circumstances, then of course.  It's okay.  I think it'd be pretty horrible if you didn't tell him.

I think you should be very frank and very clear with him.  Tell him, "Thank you so much for the proposal.  I'm really flattered.  Before I agree to this marriage, however, I should tell you that I do not intend on consummating our relationship.  Ever.  I want kids, but I plan on adopting.  I know that this is a huge decision, but I don't want you going into it thinking I'll change my mind.  If I do, it'll be on my own accord and not because of anything you did to convince me of it."

Then let him decide.

That said, I think you should examine the reasons why you're choosing not to have s*x.  Is it because you're frightened?  I can tell you quite honestly that there is little to be afraid of.  It's very natural and actually quite pleasing.  If you're afraid of the pain the first time a lot can be done in the way of minimizing that: pain relievers, lubrication.

If you're ill--then I think you should let him know.  If he doesn't know of any diseases you currently have, he'll find out when you go to get your marriage license.

Good luck.