If a man asks a women out, but she says that she will only go out in a group, is that a bad sign?

Question

Meaning she will not go out with just the 2 of us, but in a group. These women are christian so maybe that could be a cause. I am a christian as well so that is not a reason why they wouldn't go out. It could be that maybe that just don't see me as someone who they would date. Who knows right??? My question is is this a bad context clue? I am 27 in college and the women I ask out are also in their 20's. I don't date any younger than 20 and older than 29

Answer 1

No, this is not necessarily a bad sign.  It could be that this woman is simply being cautious.  Maybe she wants to feel the protection of a group date before she feels comfortable being alone with you.  I'd say that was a smart thing to do.  Go out with her a few times as a group.  By then you'll know if she's someone you want to pursue.

Answer 2

Religious groups are all about hookups. You must go with the groups controls. Go and be happy.

Answer 3

I think its a brushoff.

Answer 4

Ill tell you the reason: if this is the first and 2nd date, then it is wise on her part. She is doing it for saftety security reasons. Not saying it's you but it's todays world.

Also, when a group of your friends go they can judge the person better and have say of what they think him to this girl later if he's good, or a red flag. No offense but I would do the same, too.

Now, if she requests groups all the time, well, then she is not feelin' you sir, so to speak, she's wary, but if it's just the first couple of times, she's going with caution.

Wise lady indeed.

Answer 5

That is a fairly common thing among Christians, at least in my circle - it's a way of ensuring that one won't be tempted to do anything appropriate. Rather than getting into a compromising position and then having to make a decision for or against abstinence, she wants to avoid that position and thus not have to wrestle with it in the first place.

A wise move on her part. =)

Answer 6

go with a group up tp 3 times.  then ask her again  if they answer is still no try another woman  gl

Answer 7

i think she just wants to be sure, or maybe she's not that interested and a company will make for her an easy escape

Answer 8

It's a bad sign, regardless of the reason

Answer 9

Dating is a scary thing to many people especially women that may have had some bad experiences or Christians that have seen or heard of bad experiences.  

They want to get to know you first and be in a safe environment to do so.  Do not take it as a problem, but an opportunity to date ladies that are careful.  A social situation also provides you with the ability to meet new people and perhaps meet other women that may be of interest.

Answer 10

Some are shy.Some are just not into the intimacy of two people date.Some like the protectiveness of a group.

Answer 11

Sounds kinda strange to me ,I think that I would pass on this one. I want to date a girl ,not a group.

Answer 12

Maybe she feels it isn't safe to be alone yet in case something sexual happens maybe or her parents disapprove of her dating without friends around. Just try double dating a few times and after that if she doesn't want to be alone with you it might be that she isn't ready to date or really isn't interested.

Answer 13

some might be shy to go out with 2 person.. give her some time. wait patiently

Answer 14

I'd say it is more of a good sign. good luck.

Answer 15

Guess what? you're dealing with a lady and this is a good sign in my dictionary.

Answer 16

Perhaps, you don't uphold the same morals as Christian as she does. Her reason for this request is, more than likely, for her protection. A Christian-as I know them, will never put themselves in a situation where they're alone with someone else of the opposite s*x, especially where there are romantic feelings involved. Some will go this far to avoid falling into grave sin.

Do not convince her to do something different from what she suggested. Look past her way of doing things. In fact, go with it! Simply put, she said yes because she is interested. Even if that means taking a third person. Even if you guys would have gone out in a group, she would have said NO were she not interested.

If you can't get that doubt out of your head... be honest and discuss with her what your intentions are and if you could expect the same from her.

Answer 17

It often depends upon the cultural background of the girl. Many Asian societies like their daughters to mix with males only in a group. Greeks and Turkish girls should not like to be in a room alone with a male.

It does not matter what the religion is, except possibly Islam.

If the girl is European (British/French/German/Australian or American etc) in culture, then I would say the girl is just being cautious on the first date.

Answer 18

yes it is

Answer 19

Maybe she is just uneasy dating, this may be her way to stay in her comfort zone. There could be some history that has nothing to do with you.

Just go out and have fun.

peace.

Answer 20

It's a bad sign if you've known each other for a good bit of time and have been fairly friendly with each other.  However, if you really have not been acquainted long and don't know each other well, she may not feel comfortable being alone with you until she gets to know you better.

Answer 21

Just being cautious

Answer 22

It does depend on how old they are, and christians do this kinda of thing more often than the general population. But i`m heavily involve in christian circles, and the way i would take it would be that she is slightly interested but doesn't really want to go out with me.

if i really like her though i would jump at the chance, but it shows she is neither hot or cold on you. Unless she says " i am madly in love with you, but my convictions tell me we have to go out in a group" But if its not stated, its a sign that there is no special feeling going on.