If a man cheats on his wife multiple times, is he still in love with her?

Question

If a man cheats on his wife multiple times, is he still in love with her? In my opinion, I would think not because think about it, if he was still in love with her then the thought wouldn’t even cross his mind of doing something like that to her. What are the reasons that men cheat over and over on their wives, but keep it a secret because he is afraid that she will divorce him? Especially when the couple makes good money and has a very nice house and a corvette… is it just for security reasons even though they have no kids together?

Answer 1

Well if he was he wouldn't know the real meaning of love would he?

Answer 2

Depends on the situation. But, if it's happens regularly, my guess would be no.

Answer 3

It's possible. People don't always cheat because they are not in love with there s/o. There are many reasons. Its easy to get caught up in cheating. You don't plan on it but one thing leads to another and it's all the sudden bigger then you.

I'm not condoning cheating but to answer your question, yes there may be love still there.

Answer 4

Depends, is it over say, 100 times or what?

Don’t wanna be rushing to judge now, do we!!

Maybe he has just developed a hobby, did any of the women complain?

Answer 5

He was never in love with her in the first place if he is promiscuous. Maybe he has a medical condition like a compulsion to do things like cheating on his wife?

Answer 6

People cheat because they are insecure about their relationships or about themselves. It has little to do with love.

Answer 7

I'm in full agreement with you.

If anyone feels the desire to cheat on their significant other, and follow through with it, than it's a definite sign he or she are not in love with them.

A lot of the higher income couples and families are in fact with each other for security purposes, and to maintain their economic status to stay within their economical labeled groups,

I personal think It's sad.

Answer 8

When a person cheats on his/her spouse, that means that they absolutely do not love their spouse any longer. As far as I am concerned they no longer love their children, either, because if you love your children, you do not do things to destroy their lives

Answer 9

Many wives are dead in bed, don't care about s*x, just had what they think is s*x just to get married or their biological clock is getting insistant. In other words, under pretense. How the man feels about his wife may be love or regret, who knows.

Answer 10

No.  He's only in love with himself, and doesn't care aout the pain he inflicts on anyone.  

It's not "just s*x."  It's also disrespect, self-centeredness, thoughtlessness aand stupidity.  Thank God they never bred.

Answer 11

If a woman has a child that she loves dearly, then if she has another would she stop loving the first child?   I loved two women at once, I was in seventh heavan, thought I was THE MAN. But I did love them both and still miss the both of them.

Answer 12

Men seperate love and s*x. If you blackmail him when it comes to s*x he might still pork you but fall out of love with you at the same time for example.

Answer 13

yes

Answer 14

There can be many reasons for not divorcing his wife even as he is sleeping around.

1. He doesn't want ugly scenes. (like you said, safe, steady life. He doesn't want to break the comfortable pattern)

2. He doesn't want to make it worse by letting his wife (and eventually everybody) know. His pride/face/reputation on the line here.

3. He likes the thrill.

To me, "love" has no solid, reliable definition and conditions. But "marriage" is "loyal till death do us part" embedded in stone. If he can't even keep a promise he has sworn to keep for life, and is breaking it repeatedly without remorse, he's got some serious character flaw. I'd be wondering why the wife loves him instead of whether he still loves his wife.

Answer 15

no he's not in love with his wife - he's in love with "love" aka, s*x.  why does he do it?  because he can.  Is it for security?  no - he just wants to f__k whatever walks by and not have his assets threatened by a divorce.

Answer 16

you are mixing love, s*x and cheating.  I am learning english.  I think all these words have different meaning.

Answer 17

could be, he could be an addict

Answer 18

Realtionships are complex, with marriages being the most complex of all. Humans are not infallable. I'm not trying to make excuses for a persons infidelity. I am trying to make the point that man is not free from sin. Love and fidelity are not synonamous. They are two independent beliefs that people associate with each other. Just keep this is mind, sexual desires and jealousy are normal, fidelity is not.

I'm a bit surprised by all the thumbs down for honest answers posted here. This is  a major theme that women refuse to accept about men. Women have little understanding of male sexuality.

Answer 19

Does it matter?

His behavior is still unacceptable, no matter what his feelings are.

Answer 20

s*x and love are not the same thing.. .sometimes s*x is all a man wants wtith no attatchment....i dont think it is a sign that  the man doesnt love it is a sign that the man wants s*x from somewhere else and maybe the woman should come to terms with it and love her man through it

Answer 21

Men cheat because they think they can "do better".  They think they are blessing  an inferior woman with their p***s.  So, they think, "let me go satisfy Tonton, but when I come home I'll have a nice clean house and a bed with a steady woman.  That way between girlfriends I'll have a place for Tonton."  

It's THAT simple.  Don't make more of this pompous buffoonery than that.  Some posters think there was something beyond a selfish, base desire to gratify lust and entertain illusions of grandeur.