If a man in a traditional marriage becomes sick and is no longer to able to hold up his end of the bargain?

Question

Is she supposed to leave and find another husband who can support her? I mean, do they suddenly become an untraditional couple or does she stay traditional and he becomes the ex, how does it work?

Answer 1

look sweetie... these days no 1s got to stay married to any1 they dont want to... u can get out anytime it suits u...  an evry womans got a right to be happy... so if the marrage isent working for u.. its time to go....  jus leave!!!

Answer 2

Some people don't have the luxury to get insurance 401 k and all those other wonderful things. Both people should work or have something that can make them money.

Independence is bliss.

Answer 3

Are you serious or is your goal to become a trophy wife?

In a traditional marriage, the promise is 'till death do us part'...once married, two people become a COUPLE and it is a fifty fifty relationship...there is no 'his end of the bargain' to hold up...it is up to BOTH people in the relationship to honor and take care of the other partner.

By YOUR interpretation...if 'he' is supposed to stay healthy and provide for the basic needs of support, then if SHE gets sick, or even pregnant, and cannot support 'her end' of the bargain-then your husband has the right to find someone else to have s*x with? It goes both ways...if you say she should leave him because he can't provide her support-then he gets to leave her, right?

Wrong!

Answer 4

For working & poor class, reality is far different than the rosy picture created in "till death do us part."  Many women leave the guy (unless he has money.)  A lot of those guys (whose wives left)

are dead today.  

Whenever a guy loses a good job...there's a good chance he will go thru a divorce (unless he gets another job fast.)  Women want security, men want s*x.  Easy to remember but hard to admit.

Answer 5

That's what things like Aflac  , savings , 401 ks  and disability inurance are for.

And there is always the """""Unthinkable"""""" she could get a job .

Answer 6

Have you heard the phrase "till death do we part" "in health and in sicckness"....if you do not understand this forget about marriage..just continue doing what ever you do...

Answer 7

I my self don't believe in marriage much any more,however, i would hope that such a event wouldn't be seen as reason to end it. I do know some who would leave do to such a event.

Answer 8

My marriage never has been TRADITIONAL.   Each couple has its own situation .

   If you leave your spouse when he/she becomes ill/disabled .... what does that make you?

    If you can't count on each other when troubles come along ... who do you count on ?

    The bargain isn't about making money , it's about loyalty and love.

Answer 9

This is happening to a friend of mine.  The answer, despite the ridiculous assertions of the misogynist whiners, is that she gets a job and becomes the breadwinner.

My friend hates this, but she has no choice.  She has no skills, no education, no training for anything that someone would pay for, and yet she has to support them now.  She just assumed her husband would take care of her her whole life and . . . God had other plans.  

Tsk.

Answer 10

Since there are as many definitions of 'traditional' as there are of 'feminism' ...I guess there would be many answers to this as well.

Personally I think if you can afford it one person should stay home with the kids.  That person should be the one with the least likely career prospects.  The one who makes and will make the least amount of money.

Answer 11

I am a traditional woman and part of my belief is that  we complement each others weaknesses and strengths.  If my husband were to become ill,   I would become the one who is better suited to fulfill the tasks and roles he previously performed. I have made it a point to acquire  the skills necessary to maintain   financial stability AND care for my family.  Whatever I don't know, I will learn quickly.  It's not a big deal, it's what a person does for someone they love and are committed to.

Answer 12

I'm a traditionalist and no she's not suppose to leave him because he's taken ill. She returns the favor; she helps him in all the ways that she can. "Through sickness and health till death do us part." They stick together through thick and then and let no man cut them asunder.

Answer 13

Marriage is a partnership..for better for worse..in sickness & in health..you should be strong when the other is weak..not walk out as soon as it gets tough..what the other cannot do you do so if he can't work because he's sick then you work...mostly these days both would have to work because the cost of living is so high.

Answer 14

I hope I never meet a woman like that. Thats what you call a GOLD DIGGER. I think I will stipilate in my will that if I ever get placed in a nursing home . All my money is to be donated to a local strip club.So the ***** gets nothing...lol

Answer 15

Well, if he has any sense he'll have insurance that will cover their living expenses if he gets sick.  My husband will get a disability pension from his employers of half his salary if he has to give up work, plus we have insurance to cover the mortgage repayments.  Since the mortgage accounts for about a sizeable chunck of our expenses, we will be very little worse off if it does happen.

However, if they don't have any such insurance, then I suppose the wife will do her best to find a job, presumably doing whatever it was she did before she became a traditional wife.

Answer 16

I guess that would depend on how the couple in question views marriage.

When this happened in my family,  we received SSI disability and my mother went to work...and we STILL lived on borderline poverty level.  

This experience was one of the factors that motivated me to get a college education and develop job skills so I can support myself and my children if I am ever faced with a similar situation.

Answer 17

No of course not.  Marriage is forever.  I think they will simply have to change their views.  You have to do what you have to do to support your family and keep things going.  If that means changing your roles, then you change your roles.  Do you really think all of those women of the 40's divorced their husbands?

I have no problem with people choosing roles differently than my husband and I do (I am not sure why you do).  If it works for them, so be it.  My husband and I have found that 50/50 in finances as well as household upkeep work for us.  I think you are making assumptions of others beliefs.  Perhaps you should discuss this with them before you get ahead of yourself.

Answer 18

till death do us part-mean anything?