If a person hasn't been in contact with his Mother?

Question

or family for 10 years, what do the siblings do when the Mother dies?  My Uncle wont contact any of us and we would"t have a clue where he is?   Although his Mum(my Grandmother) is alive now, she may not live too much longer!     We just don't know what to do?  he never calls anyone for birthdays or Christmas and we all made the effort when we knew where he was, but now he just doesn't care...he is a bit odd, but when she dies should we actually really try to get in touch??? What do you think? he doesn't care at all, and his wife and kids don't seem to care cos they would have told us where they all moved too! Should we just not worry?? What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

"when she dies should we actually really try to get in touch?"

What you could do now is write a note to ask each individual member of his family including "if you fail to respond to this in some way we (I) will assume you wish no part of our lives ... or funerals.

I will regret that.

Love

Iggy's mum"

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Answer 2

Move on !

Life can be very short !

Answer 3

Situations are different. If he hasn't done anything harmful to his Mom, I would contact him and let him at least know. Let him decide what he wants to do after that.

We (my other siblings and I) did not contact my sister when my Mom died. (actually, none of us even have her phone number, but one of my brothers is a cop, so we could have found her if we wanted) She had done many horrible things to my Mom and they had not been in contact for many years. It was more due to the things she had done, rather than the lack of contact.

Answer 4

Well, in those circumstances I think you ought at least do a phonebook search or sommat to try to let him know. Facebook... Myspace etc.. his kids will use it... people can decide not to contact family if that's what they want to do ... but they don't evaporate.

Answer 5

My aunt ran off 39 years ago and i found her on the internet just a year ago. i think you should find him, my grandma died not too long after i found my aunt, and i think it gave her peace to know shes alive. I think you should get to know him before your grandma dies, if not, you will always regret what could have happened, i know i do. just find him, if he doesnt want to be around, then thats his choice, but present the chance non the less.