If a woman had 5 children...

Question

If a woman had five children by three different men what would your immediate opinion be of her?

Answer 1

I think that some women genuinely are loose and they put themselves in the position of getting pregnant by refusing to use condoms or birth control pills.  Some women, like your friend, have babies while in a relationship with someone, and then that relationship falls through. That is different from having one night stands with strangers and not using condoms.  This is a big problem in my community.  People just do not use birth control.  There is one woman who has five kids from five different men and she's only 26 years old.  Now, I will say that I don't think these women are bad, I just think that they need to control their actions a little bit more.

Really support your friend and don't be afraid to give anyone heck if they talk about her behind her back and say mean things about her.  She's not a bad person and she is probably having a really tough time.  

Answer 2

I hate judgemental people, yet Nearly everybody are prejudice!!!!

It pisses me off!!

its not bad at all. Does that mean that if someone adopts 3 children does that make her a w***e for having children by different parents!!!

Most people have had more than 3 sexual partners.whats the difference.

tell ur mate I said keep ur head up, dont listen to what anyone else thinks. As long as she's a good mother it doesn't matter how many fathers

Answer 3

I agree with Stacie.  Everyone makes mistakes and for a baby to be brought into the relationship things must have been good with each of the men at some point.

Answer 4

She's selfish & not very bright.

Answer 5

that she has not yet found mr right, and that she is very strong for not staying in a relationship just for the sake of the children.

Answer 6

Nasty. Unless she was married 3 times and had the kids during that time. My dad was married 4 times. He had 3 kids with the first wife, none with the second, I was the product of the 3rd wife and then his current wife, they had 2 kids and adopted 2 kids...so that is a total of 8 kids....and my mom was married 2 times and had 1 kid with each husband.....I don't know...I just feel bad for the kids for all the confusion.

Answer 7

That she has made some bad decisions regarding men and that maybe she should consider birth control until she is sure this is the man for her before having anymore children.

Answer 8

I don't think she should have had any more children after her divorce.  Now she is in a stable relationship, you say? Did she think her first or second relationship was stable? Will she have another child with the next man she marries or befriends?  It's not bad really when you explain the story, but she really should have just stopped.

Answer 9

I would punch her in the baby maker and ship her off to China.

Answer 10

i would have no opinion based on that

Answer 11

She needs to get on the pill. Two guys I can see, but 3. I mean why is she going from guy to guy? That would be my first question. And is it fair to all these kids that she just keeps getting pregnant with different men. For me I would be worried about what my children thought of me. And what am I going to say when they ask why all their dad's are different and why Johnny down the street only has one dad in their family.

I wouldn't look down on her, but I would definitely wonder what the h**l she is thinking, especially if the kids are pretty close in age.

Answer 12

it depends on their ages. If they are spread over 25 years, not so bad, if they are spread over a few years, then thats quite bad.

Answer 13

How would I know she had 3 different fathers for her kids? This shouldn't come up in conversation when you first meet someone.

I'd have to base my opinion of her for after I get to know her.

Everyone has things they don't share with the world.

Answer 14

that she has bad taste in men...

but most women do...

i know i do...

Answer 15

Well, probably like most people and think she got around. But I am also an adult and can understand that things go wrong in relationships, you move on and start a family with other people.

Answer 16

Without knowing the circumstances, misconceptions can be formed. It's not my place to judge someone. Instead, I lend an ear and listen carefully. Only they know the truth.  

Answer 17

Well, when you just say 3 different fathers, it sounds like a w***e.

However: when you know the story, that she had kids from 3 steady relationships, she just sounds normal to me. Perhaps these people aren't really your friends.

Answer 18

I think the immediate opinion isnt that good. It would also make a difference if she was married or not.

Answer 19

misguided

Answer 20

I wouldn't judge her, I understand fully how relationships can fail.

I'm sure theres perfectly good reasons for this and it probably wasn't something she intended to happen.

shes done well bringing up her children alone as a single parent and helped them out by not keeping them around during a bad one!

Go her!

Answer 21

I would have no immediate opinion of her

Answer 22

i'd think she's ghetto, on welfare and a very ignorant, uncautious w***e.

Now, thinking a second...i think If I knew her story i'd probably change that opinion immediately..but that is my first instict.

Answer 23

she's attrcted to horrrible men

Answer 24

That she doesn't believe in abortion and she probably loves her children very much.

Answer 25

Shes needs to pick better fathers for her kids and make better choices for them  

Answer 26

i'd say she must've made a few mistakes with her choice of partners but fair play to her for being there for her kids xxxx

Answer 27

not very good supporting friends eh, and i dont think she needs to concider them friends anymore. who needs that in there life.

When you here the story, no, it dosnt sound that bad. Life happens different for everyone, and this was the way it was meant to be for her.

I have 2 kids, different dads, but when you here my story, its normal. long term relationship, didnt work out, 5 years later met someone new, nother baby, and still in that relationship....

If she is happy, then who cares what other people think. Tell your friends to shove it.

Answer 28

do you mean after I call her a w***e?

Answer 29

I'd have to know the situation more before I make an opinion, I hate to judge.  But in general I wonder why ANYONE would want 5 children even if it's with one man.  It doesn't allow the children to get that individual attention they need when growing up.

Answer 30

That she made some mistakes but was smart enough not to stay in bad relationships.

Edit:  I wonder why some people think "w***e" or "nasty"?  Is it because she had s*x with 3 different men, or because she got pregnant by 3 different men?  What's the difference?  How many women haven't slept with 3 different men?  Just some food for thought...

Answer 31

uuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmm........................

thats kinda dificult! um i probaly would think that she would be kinda weird!