If a woman keeps making excuses not to see me, is she just playing hard to get?

Question

My buds tell me to keep trying and that she just loves being pursued. Give us the inside scoop on this, ladies.

Answer 1

Or here's  a thought, shes just not that into you!

Answer 2

Either that, or she can't stand you.

Answer 3

Hard to get means you get somewhere with them.

Always making excuses means the goal posts keep running away from you.

You arent even on the pitch as far she is concerned.

Answer 4

Maybe she genuinely doesn't want to see you - some women don't like to feel they're being pressurised into a relationship before they're ready to start one. Bavk off a little and let her decide what she wants to do. If it's meant to be, it'll happen naturally>

Answer 5

well it could be that she's playing hard to get or that she really doesn't like you. sometimes girls love to be chased or something like that cause they  feel that you really like her to pursue her that much and do things so that you'll be able to show to her your feelings. since guys love the challenge they will pursue it but sometimes if your pursuing her for a long time, you just want to prove to everybody that you can charm any girl you want and the feelings you have for that girl is lost if it is superficial so it depends cause for me if i don't like you i would tell you to stop and if i do like you we can start to be friends and know each other better...

Answer 6

I don't like being pursued too much as it invades my inner space.  Playing hard to get is is what you'd like to assume but she's making excuses not to see you so i'd believe that.  The old idea of men doing the pursuing and women playing hard to get is old school.

Answer 7

You have to take control of the situation and act uninterested yourself, you think she's playing hard to get, do the same. Show her that you're not going to fall for her childish games and take control of the situation. Every chick likes a man in control - but not in a violent abusive way.

Answer 8

maybe she's genuinly busy?  

Answer 9

She's just not that into you dude.

Answer 10

Believe me if I kept giving a guy excuses it would be a polite way of saying that I am not interested! Give her your phone number and then leave it up to her. If she is interested ( as your buds think) she will call. Otherwise take her hints and leave her alone.

Best wishes.

Light, Love & blessings,

Answer 11

I don't know about her, but if I was making excuses not to see a guy it would be because I wasn't interested. Why don't you just ask her if she's interested in you or not. That would take the guessing out of things. If she is interested, then she's playing hard to get, if not she's blowing you off. There's only one way to find out for sure, ask...If you don't want to ask recruit a friend to do it. Good Luck.

Answer 12

Not being harsh but it sounds as though she is not interested.

Or she may just generally be busy!!!

Answer 13

She's just not that into you.  Move on.

Answer 14

Ask her when is her free day? the time you can go out with her. then if she answers I'm busy, maybe she is not interested with you. if she really wants to see you, she'll find a way though she is busy.  

Answer 15

you are the prize, let her chase.

Answer 16

If a girl likes you she will pursue you. Do not keep trying, it just makes you pathetic. Not an attractive quality.  

Answer 17

Wakey Wakey!!!

She's not interested.

Answer 18

You're going to look silly pursuing someone who's not interested in you. Remember, "the party of the most power is the party of the least interest." Leave her alone--then she might come to you. Occasionally this dating stuff is like netting blue crabs. Be patient, and bring 'em up fast in the net.

Answer 19

You never know... How does she refuse? Does she sound at all annoyed, or does she sound playful?

Married now, but if I was interested in woman and she refused, I'd give it three tries. 1. Maybe she's busy   2. Still busy? O.K...  3. "I'd really like to see you, if you ever find some free time, please call me." and never call her again, until SHE calls YOU.

Life is too short to waste time with games...

Answer 20

You know at times it's really hard to know what is actually going through someone else's head.  For instance; I would come right out and tell you bluntly "get lost."  Now, that's only if and when I'm not interested.  Sometimes; we do like that girl, you know continue making excuses in hopes that you will finally recognize the complicated picture we're drawing.  I dunno, perhaps, you should take a gamble and ask her right out what in the heck is going on; not allowing her to refer to any verbal word games.

Answer 21

It seems you've answered your own question by stating that she "keeps making excuses."

If she considered you worthy of her time, she would do whatever she could, to spend it with you. She would also respond to your offers sooner than later, so that you aren't "snapped up" by another woman.

People who consistently decline offers, generally make excuses to avoid hurting the other person's feelings.

Also, I think you can safely assume that if you're initiating all or most of the  contact, the feelings aren't reciprocated.

Answer 22

if you want her, blow her off! let her know she has no value to you and make sure she also knows you are dating higher quality then her and she will rush to you with a mattress in tow to make you love her.

Always remember the fastest way to get a woman is attack her self esteem and sexual desirability.  Women may not like me saying this but it is tried and tested. Of course if you are looking for a quality woman then don't waste your time on those that fall for this.

Answer 23

Why do you waste so many points asking the same question over and over? If you want to know what her intentions are ask her, why can't you discuss this with her? You have been on here asking this for weeks; isn't it time to actually resolve your question?

Answer 24

PERHAPS SHE JUST DOSNT WANT TO SEE U!!

Answer 25

Three words:

You're a stalker.

Back off or you might just get a visit from the cops.

If you back off, she may pursue you, if she doesn't you know she probably isn't interested unless she's a psycho.

I'm not sure what you want in a relationship, but 'psycho' is hard work.

Your 'buds' are having a laugh at your expense.

Cheers :-)