If a woman works on her appearance, and attracts men's attention, shouldn't she turn them ALL away?

Question

After all, they are attracted to her beauty and not the person beneath, right?

So, women should look as unattractive as possible, in order to attract the man they want (the one who values them for reasons other than her looks).

Sound logical?

Answer 1

that's the plot of many a romantic comedy my friend.

Answer 2

No, my method is this: Look good, and when a man approaches you, put your intellect on display and see how he reacts. If he ducks, he isn't worth dating. If he keeps talking, he might be.

Answer 3

Makes sense. If a woman is against 'shallow men who only want women for their looks', then yes, you would think that that same women would tone down her appearance as to be better assured that the men she does attract or more likely a fan of her personal virtue than sexual appearance.  You're right. That does sound logical. -- Why don't more women follow this?

Edit-

To those women claiming that the first impression is important-- how do you explain that to yourselves as being anything other than illogical?

If you want a man who is virtuous and respects a person for their merit-- then you would want ESPECIALLY at first impression to make sure that you find out what type of person he is from the decision he makes.

Edit--

Butterfly-

You say that first impressions are important-- AFTER THAT we should look at value and character. So are you condoning men value women for their looks first and foremost- then their value and character 2nd and 3rd? >> That sounds pretty much like what you said.

* What's crazy is that you hear women talk all that nonsense about wanting a man who wants her for her 'inner beauty' and her personal character as her primary selecting measure>> yet in REAL LIFE when posed the question as to 'well why not quit dolling yourself up if you want a man with character and this and that?' they respond like this?

THE REALITY IS THAT WOMEN REALIZE (girls/women of all ages) THAT A "JERK" OR A PLAYER OR AN ****** IS FAR BETTER THAN NO MAN AT ALL. And they shape themselves up and act accordingly.

Answer 4

No, but I suspect you don't work in logic often.

Answer 5

It does sound logical that's why I did it.

I used to dress in black baggy clothes and wear no make up so that men would pay no attention to me, they still did but I made myself pretty much unattention grabbing as possible.

Then I met a really nice sweet guy who loved me as I was and didn't care that I didn't dress up in a feminine way or bother to wear makeup. He never pushed me to do these things either or look a certain way, he was happy with me the way I was.

I start buying girl clothes and makeup because I wanted to show myself off for once. I figured that I had a great guy who loves me when I look like c**p so I feel comfortable looking good around him because I know that's not all he wants me for and I don't despise him for it.

Men stare holes through me when we go out and I feel good about it because I'm with him and all the men can do is just stare BAHAHA

I still dress in baggy clothes when I'm traveling by myself or if I don't want strange men attempting to hump my leg in public.

Answer 6

i understand what you mean ... but then 1st impression is important after which you look at the person value and character..

Answer 7

Most women are almost fanatical about appearance.

Contrary to what the belief is, women want to be viewed as beautiful.

When they're not conventionally beautiful -- and this is only secondary -- they want to be judged on their personality. And when they have bad looks and bad personalities (feminists), they want to be judged on their opinions.  

Answer 8

No.  You must attract a man to get time with him so he can see your other values.

Answer 9

Well, I'm a guy, and I would say I would NOT look purposely "unattractive", but a guy should find you beautiful without you having to be all dolled up, because that's not how you are going to be with him most times. You should dress to whatever your own comfort level is. If you want a person who accepts you as the person you are and not just on physical attraction then you should be searching within a place that has those types of people. Like a bar would not be a good search ground for someone accepting you as a whole person.