If adoptees hate the term "b*****d" then why do they embrace "bastardnation.org?

Question

I don't get it. . . .

Answer 1

I am not aware of adoptees hating the term b*****d.

I am not aware of adoption being A-OK, you sound like Gomer Pyle!  And I thought he was dead ;)  Roller Lolz

Answer 2

I couldn't care less about the word b*****d, in fact I take a sick kind of pride in it. By calling myself a b*****d I am able to take back a small portion of who I am because I am, in fact, a b*****d.

To quote Randall in Clerks II.

"I'm takin it back, you watch"

Answer 3

idk idk that is messed up and if i ever in my life did used the word b*****d in any way i would like to apologize... but i think they should put a different name immideATELY

Answer 4

Who says adoptees hate the term "b*****d"? I havent got a problem with it. If someone called me a b*****d, I'd go: "True. Did you have a point?"

Its like Tish, taking on a formerly derogatory term and making it empowering. When I was a kid, I was strangely proud of the term. I ran into the kitchen one day saying to my mum, "I'm a b*****d, Mum." She wasn't impressed.

Answer 5

because, different cultures adopt different meaning from names and statements. most of it has to do with historic derogatory use by other groups; and the desire to "own" it and change the meaning and connotation.

examples:

-the term "q***r" is considered a political term in the LGBTQ community; yet considered derogatory if used by others outside of the community.

-the word "n*gga (er)" is often used casually in the black community, yet, would probably get a person outside of that community punched in the mouth if they attempted to address a black person with that term.

-women often call each other "*****" as a term of kinship; yet, if called that by a man would most likely be taken as offensive.

helps a bit???

Answer 6

riiiiiiiiiiight.

Answer 7

I hate the fact that being a b*****d was used against me and the cause of why I needed to be relinquished. However, I embrace the word because I own it now - not anyone else to use against me. Doing so makes the word powerless. It's not a new thing for those who have been stereotyped and oppressed to take ownership of the nasty words used against them.

Answer 8

I think their just out to help people. But I would have named  the site a different.name . I don't care for that name.

Answer 9

I can only speak for myself, but I don't hate the term b*****d.

A word is only what you make it out to be. Good or bad. And b*****d is simply part of who I am

I'm also a witch...but with a B, again no biggie.. it's who I am :D

Answer 10

Who said adoptees hate the term "b*****d?"  I don't hate it at all.   Most of the  b******s I know are pretty  terrific people.   I'm all for the rights of b******s that ended up being adopted, too.  

You don't get it because there's nothing to get since don't all hate the term "b*****d."  

I do, however, find the improper use of the term "b*****d" to be rather vulgar and a sign of the ill-bred.  The word "b*****d" is not an insult, nor should it be utilized as one.

Answer 11

Don't know...

Answer 12

outlook unclear.. ask again later.

Answer 13

Tish explained it best...just what I was thinking about before I got down to her post.  = )  I could never have put it as well as she did regardless...  

When we embrace what others have used to shame us, we claim it as our own, thus neutralizing the 'sting' once associated with the word and using it instead to empower change. (And to empower ourselves).

Sometimes humor IS the best medicine!  

My one tiny regret is that I discovered my mother was married when I was born, so technically, I'm not a b*****d!  LOL

Answer 14

you "don't get" adoptees either, quite obviously.

Answer 15

There are no illegitimate children, there are just illegitimate affairs that produce a precious child.

Answer 16

I think that they are jealous of true b******s who are not legitimized via the blessing (miracle!) of adoption.  Wink!

Answer 17

You do know that this was stamped on our original birth certificates right?  I actually call myself an ungrateful b*****d.  Part of it is the history of adoption and part of it is the shock value of the word itself.  Actually in truth I am a b*****d because I am the product of a married man and an unwed mother.  The reason why I love that organization is that they believe in the constitutional right of my having my original birth certificate.  They base on fact not emotion.  We are denied our basic right on the presumption of harm.