If after a break-up they never try to contact you, would you think they weren't that into you?

Question

After 16 months of everyday together and he said he was in love with me but has never contacted me since we split.

I ended it because we were both very unsure as to whether or not we were "the one" for one another, we were very open about this subject.

He is also a person who is unable to express much emotion, the handful of times he told me he loved me he whispered it in my ear, never once could he look at me and say it.

Answer 1

I feel, I love, I pain...why you hurt me so...break up wit me?

Answer 2

You're broken up. Why do you want him to go out of his way to see you? If you had the same social circles or worked in the same place or went to the same school/church it would be unavoidable. But if he doesn't have to see you why would he want to? It's over. You dumped him. Why stress the details at this late date?

And P.S. vis-a-vis Happy2... If he thought he was still in love with you you'd know it.

Answer 3

Why should he come back to you, when it was you that doesn't want him? He did what you asked and you're still not happy. He's already been rejected by you, so why should he put his neck out there again?

Answer 4

Well, when you break up with a person you shouldn't necessarily expect for them to contact you. He may be too prideful to contact you or he may just be respecting the boundaries of the breakup.  

Answer 5

He probably cared deeply for you.. but some men don't know how to express their feelings.

but maybe it is best that he hasn't contacted you.. he has moved on and so should you.. it is for the best.then maybe one day,you never know he may just pop up out of nowhere and be a different person..  

Answer 6

nope, i would think he is doing you both a favor by not dragging it on or letting it linger.

he's an ex for a reason.

Answer 7

You may think he was "unable" to express much emotion, but when he finds the One who is right for him, he'll shout it from the roof tops.  He just wasn't that into you.

Answer 8

No  usually when people are hurt they tend to stay away from the person or thing that conflicted the pain....You said that he could not express his feeling when you were together, you should know now that you are apart that is going to be even harder.  

Answer 9

You ended it, but you're worried because he never tried to contact you?  He's respecting your space and keeping his dignity intact.  YOU broke it off.  His reaction is about him, not you.  

Be glad he's not stalking you, and wanting to carve his name into your backside with a pen knife...

Answer 10

Why do you expect him to contact you? You are the one who ended it ... and you said yourself that he does not express much emotion. So it doesn't sound likely that he will contact you now.

Are you trying to play games with him? Sorry, not trying to be mean here ~ but you *ended the relationship* Now you are judging his past feelings on whether or not he is respecting your wishes to end things? Sounds as if he simply has the courage to move on. Perhaps you should do the same.