If an adoption came down to a g*y couple or the child not being adopted at all which is right in your eyes?

Question

I think that g*y couples should have the same rights as straight couples. That includes marriage, adoption and anything else... Being g*y does not automatically make you a bad parent and if you believe that, then you, my friend, are terribly naive.

Answer 1

Not to be adopted at all.

Answer 2

But adoption isn't about g*y rights--it's about what's best for the CHILD.

I love g**s all day long--but I think adoption should be like a hefty insurance policy--kids should GET what they lost--a mother and a father.

Just like most kids would PREFER to be raised by their bio parents--most would prefer to have a MOTHER and FATHER, too.

Answer 3

The g*y couple should be able to adopt.

Answer 4

i do too...i think it should be best for the child..and personally i think any couple thinking adoption should go thru some classes...and personally i think all parents adoptive or not should go thru some but thats another story...there are some people who should be parents and some who def shouldnt be doesnt matter if you are g*y or straight....it still happens

Answer 5

i agree with you 100%!

Answer 6

g*y couple all the way.  I placed my son with a g*y couple.  They are the greatest parents I have ever seen.  I would never have it any other way.

Answer 7

Well with legaly married couples having to go to other countries to adopt I would have to say no to allowing a g*y

couple to adopt. A family should consist of a man and a

woman that is what nature intented, to chose a g*y life style

is none of my business but when it comes to marriage and

adoption I believe marriage and having babies is something

that is between men and women only.

Answer 8

There's absolutely no good reason why a child shouldn't be raised by a g*y couple, especially if the alternative is not to be raised by anyone at all!

Even the American Institute of Psychiatry (or whatever it's called, forgive me, it's late) states that no psychological harm is done to a child being raised by a homosexual couple as opposed to a heterosexual couple, and that it doesn't seem to influence the child's sexuality whatsoever.

I would happily give my child up to a g*y couple, were I planning on doing so (which I wouldn't, as I want to have children very much).. but I would have no objection to doing so whatsoever.

Answer 9

I personally dont agree with " g*y" people in a couple ways...but at the same time I have many frinds that are and see absolutely nothing wrong with a couple of any orientation being able to have a child...I hope that people can accept it more sooner than later because thats a really silly reason to let a child grow up alone. I actually believe that "g*y"(their really should be a different word) parents are better than a lot of the parents out there. You dont hear everyone talking down on the parents that go out and party all the time and leave their kid with whomever they can. So I think its just people being ignorant. Anyone can  have a child live with them but not everyone can be a good parent,I think thats what they need to be looking at rather than a persons choice in partner.

Answer 10

I believe that g*y people, just like straight people, should get to experience having children. There is nothing wrong with g**s or g*y couples adopting children. They will have to go through the same training, get the same background checks, etc.

Answer 11

i beleive that it is better for the g*y couple to adopt it. the only thing is, that children are mean, and dont understand about homosexual couples, so could be mean to the adoted child.

Answer 12

i really don't care about a persns sexual preferences.

that being said, i despise adoption.  doesn't matter to me who is doing it.

i am pro-family and pro-guardianship.

Answer 13

I've got no problem with g*y couples adopting. There's increasing evidence that sexual orientation is not taught but inborn, so the odds of that child being g*y don't even change.

His or her chances for a good life do, though, big-time.

Answer 14

I have  g*y friends who are smart, wonderful people and would make terrific parents.

Answer 15

Well this is more of a question then a rant but I believe whatever is best for the child should occur. Some straight people are terrible adoptive parents. I think it is wrong for single people to have a hard time adopting. That really makes me angry. So in response to your question, as long as the people are responsible, loving, don't abuse the child and do what is best for him then there is no reason that the child should not be adopted by the prospects, g*y, straight or whatever else. The only stiupulation I would have on that is that eldery or sick single people shouldn't be able to adopt because they might not be around to raise the child.

Answer 16

All children need loving safe homes.  If a g*y/L*****n couple can provide that, then I see nothing wrong with allowing them to adopt.

Answer 17

Adoption and parenting are not 'rights'

Answer 18

I agree with you!

Answer 19

I don't think there is anything wrong with a g*y couple raising a child. Just because a person wants to be in a same s*x relationship doesn't mean that that person is mot capable of loving and caring for a child. g*y people are people too and have feelings just as anyone else. i myself am not g*y and am married to someone of the opposite s*x but I have many g*y friends and they have children and their kids are perfectly normal and happy with who their parents are. Children don't care if they have 2 mom's or 2 dad's raising them, as long as they are loved and taken care of they're happy. I believe that is all that matters

Answer 20

I agree.  I think the child would be better with a g*y couple.

Answer 21

Love is love.  And in whatever manner it exhibits itself is wonderful in my eyes.  You must have a lot of love in your heart when you go through the adoption process because it can truly be intimidating and stressful.  So, if you can love a child that is a total stranger to you, whether it be a boy or girl, black, white, or polka dot, 10 days old or 10 years old, then it shouldn't come as a surprise that adults who find love within their own sexual orientation would want to adopt children.  They obviously have a lot of love in their hearts, just like hetero couples looking to adopt.  To deny them the right to marry and have children (and divorce and end up with a teenager they want to strangle twice a day like the rest of us) would be the same as denying love.  Just because some people are offended by the direction that love takes people, doesn't make the love any less real.  There are people that want mixed race marriages made illegal.  But, I have never heard anyone complain about these couples adopting.  So, I'm for love in all of its diversities and personally think the world would be a better place if silly restrictions would be removed from the equation.  Don't get me wrong, these kooks in Texas marrying their 12 year old nieces should have a wooden steak pounded into their hearts and then beheaded just to be sure they don't come back to life.  But, I don't see any love in those relationships.  All I see is some really sick puppy's who hide behind their religion so that they can molest and rape children.  OK.  Sorry.  Got off on my soap box for a minute.  I say, "Yes, g**s should be allowed to adopt."

Answer 22

All children should be in kind, loving homes- the parents sexuality shouldn't be a factor. There are many happy, healthy children who are being raised by g*y/L*****n/alternative families.

Answer 23

being in a family.....or having no family.....family.....no family....hmm. real tough choice there! lol

of course, every child deserves a loving supportive family, not only to grow up in but to fall back on when their adult life gets difficult. doesnt matter what the make up is, as long as there is love and support!

Answer 24

As a Christian, I don't think children should be raised by homosexual couples.  God destroyed whole societies because of homosexuality and immorality (Sodom and Gomorrah).  

Adoptees have voiced a lot of issues, including anger and resentment, when they have been raised by an adopted FATHER and MOTHER.  Growing up is hard enough in a normal family whether the child is biological or adopted.  I think being raised by g*y parents would add another BIG issue.  Can you imagine the teen years?  Kids want to be "like everyone else".  I think there would be a lot of anger, resentment and embarrassment in teens who are in that situation.  It would be interesting to hear what someone had to say who DID grow up with g*y parents.

Answer 25

as long as the g*y couple is comptetant, loving, and has the ability to meet the needs of the child, then there is absolutely no reason why they cannot adopt.  in our country, there's something like 120,000 children out there without homes.  to deny a child a loving family and put them back on the streets or into an orphanage simply because of the couples' sexual orientation is stupid, immoral, and not in the best interest of the child.  there are plenty of lousy straight parents out there.  studies have proven that having g*y parents does not turn you g*y, or make you depressed, or give you psycological problems, or any of the other ignorant rumors out there about g*y parenting.  in fact, studies have shown that children of g*y parents are often better adjusted, perform better in school, and have a more mature understanding of tolerance by age ten than children of straight parents.  besides, if two adults have what it takes, they will make excellent parents, regardless of whether they are g*y or straight.  parenting is about being responsible and loving, and possessing certain skills such as patience and common sense.  being straight doesn't automatically mean you have these skills or are able to handle the tasks of parenthood.  

it's about who you are as a person and a parent, not as a partner or a lover.

Answer 26

Yea, better to be adopted into g*y family than no family at all. This as well as many other topics will be an issue for a long time to come, unfortunantly.

Answer 27

I don't understand why the g*y thing is even a problem! I think it is best to put the child in a loving home. I am sure the that parents understand that the being g*y means that they have some explaining to do. But I am also sure that they will do that explaination in a loving sensitive way.

Answer 28

Seems to me it was more of a rant than a Question Twist.

But I have no objection to a persons sexual persuasion.

But I do have objections to anything that upsets a child.

Being raised by 2 g**s, women or men, is not natural, it will never be natural, no matter whether g**s get 100% rights in the world all over, it will still never be natural. A man and woman are designed by god or Science whichever you choose to believe to procreate , not 2 men , not 2 women.

Therefore as it will never be natural it is not right for the child to be raised in something unnatural.

Therefore to answer your question I say not adopted is the right thing.

Its not about the g**s, its about the child

Answer 29

I agree with you 100%. Loving and caring parents should be able to adopt, g*y or not. It's ashame it's such an issue for some people still.

Answer 30

I agree with you.   A child is far better off with two loving parents of the same s*x than he is without a family.  For that matter, a child is better off with a g*y couple than some of the straight couples I know!

Answer 31

Hi Twist,

I don't believe adoption is about g*y rights at all.  It's about the right of a child to have a home.  Adoption is about meeting the needs of children first, not adults.

There is no "right" to adopt children by either g*y or straight people.  It is a priviledge.  It is based upon the home meeting specific qualifications.  Even straight people do not have a "right" to adopt children.  

You're correct about parenting and sexuality being two different things.  To your question, I would not assume that the g*y home is going to be better or worse.  Their qualifications as parents should be investigated, not their sexuality.  Thanks for bringing up that being g*y should not in itself be a disqualifier.

julie j

reunited adoptee