If an internationally adopted baby dies of SIDS?

Question

my aunt recently adopted a little boy (5 yrs) from siberia, (i know he cant die of sids!) but that got me thinking . if you internationally adopt a baby, which can cost upwards of 30k, and he or she dies of SIDS or something within a few months of bringing him/her home what happens? would you get a refund or a new baby (that sounds so insensitive but i'm really curious!)

Answer 1

No, You dont get a refund, Most of the babies are over a year old so the % goes down.

Answer 2

Usually you wouldn't even get the baby until it is about 5 or 6 months old and by that time the risk of sids has greatly decreased.

Answer 3

I don't think this question is funny or cute at all. No, you wouldn't get another baby or a refund, just like you wouldn't if your child died of some other disease.

Answer 4

No, of course not. You are not "purchasing" a child, the fees went to pay for the child's orphanage/ fostercare, medical needs, document preparation, agency expenses, etc, etc. If your biological infant died, no one would "replace" your child few you, no matter how much yuo had spent caring for that child.

Infact I know of a few situations where the family was adopting internationally and the child either passed away or the firstmother decided to parent after a specific child was referred, but before travel, and most the country fees (a large part of the expenses) were not refunded to the family, because those expenses were already incurred. (those circumstances will vary be country/ agency though)

Answer 5

Children adopted internationally are almost always well beyond infancy. (So too old for SIDS.)  They get a complete health evaluation so the parents should be aware of any underlying issues.  If the child dies later -- it's the same as the loss of any other child.

Answer 6

NO

Treating human beings like commodities is just so, so wrong.  This is the most disgusting question I've ever seen here (and that's saying something!)

Answer 7

Well, I know what would happen at Home Depot.  But IA, I think you're s.o.l.

Answer 8

if you grow a baby and give birth to a baby...and pay hospital bills for that baby and it dies of SIDS do you get a new one?  the answer is no that you just have to suffer the emotional and financial loss.

Answer 9

Believe it or not, many try to or ask for another child to replace the one that passed away.  Just like pet owners do.  

They should be forced to cough up more money to fly the child's parents over so they can bury their child.

Answer 10

No.  However, you could apply to adopt again and some of the costs would be lower. For instance, you wouldn't have to do another homestudy, although the Russian agency may want to review the medical record of the deceased infant.  As another poster mentioned, most of the babies are older, although I understand that children can die of SIDS as old as 2 years old (My great-aunt died at 1 from SIDS).

Answer 11

That would just be both the natural and adoptive family's tragic loss.

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Gaia, STOP accusing adoptive parents of BUYING their children!  These are YOUR words, not mine:  "No, you cannot get your money back. You got the baby - you got what you paid for."

Answer 12

I am afraid not  as Gia said there is no guarantee how long any child will live. How long any person will live.  Take for example a baby who dies shortly after its born the parents still have to pay the hospital bills despite their child died less then 24 hours.

Answer 13

This nearly happened to my wife and me.  While we were in process, our referred baby died of SIDS.  However, since none of the paperwork was "child-specific" at that point, we were able to get a referral for a "new" baby, who is now our pride and joy.  

However, it this had happened after the adoption was completed, we would have had no recourse.  

Think of it this way...once the adoption is final, there is no real difference between an adopted child and a biological child, at least from a "legal" standpoint.

Answer 14

Wow.  "would you get a refund or a new baby."  So, you think children are replaceable?  You think they are commodities?

This beats sick.

Answer 15

Absolutely no refunds.  I've also seen this question asked in the case where a couple adopted a toddler who wouldn't bond with them because of the abuse that happened to the boy as a baby.  That child ended up relinquished into the US foster care system, not any better than in his original orphanage.  Kids are not bought where you can get a refund.  Only in the case where the child had undisclosed medical conditions that the agency didn't disclose, which would make the adoption fraudulent, could someone even file suit about it.  And, in the event that a child died, even from something like SIDS that is not the parents fault, the chances of being able to start over are very slim.

Answer 16

by the time the adoption goes through the baby will probably be out of the sids stage.

Answer 17

That really, really is a horrifying thing to ask.  I understand why you're asking, but it is a horrifying thought.  No, you cannot get your money back.  You got the baby - you got what you paid for.  There are no guarantees of how long the child will live.  Same is true for biological kids, infant adoptions, foster care adoptions, family members, friends, bosses...pretty much anybody can die at any time, and you can't "get your money back" - or whatever it was that you put into that relationship.  I know that you know this, and I'm not trying to talk down to you.  What I'm trying to get at is that human life cannot be purchased, sold, exchanged, refunded, or otherwise leveled to nothing more than money.  As much as human traffickers have tried, they have not been able to get rid of genes, family ties, emotions, love...you get what you have for as long as it lasts, period.

ETA:  Kristy, I'm sorry the truth bothers you so much.  Seriously, this obsession you have is not healthy.  I'm not all that important.  No one else mentions me by name in 90% of their answers.  Take a breath and move on.  I'm not going away, and I'm certainly not going to start cowing to your irrational demands just because you're obsessed with changing my mind.  It's YOUR obsession, not mine.