If being is a choice, then why people say you can't help who you fall in love with?

Question

oops, I forgot the word "g*y"....if being g*y is a choice.............

Answer 1

People choose it and then now there g*y and now fall in love with people.

They can't help it now. Are Pedophiles born this way. People can become g*y if that's a big shock.  

Answer 2

Being g*y or otherwise has nothing to do with falling in love.

Answer 3

Being g*y is a choice for girls,  not guys =P

Anyways people say that because you are usually g*y because you love someone of the opposite s*x

It's not really someone hopping around saying, "Hmm, I think I'll be g*y today!"

Answer 4

It would be all good and well.....if being g*y was a choice.  

Answer 5

cauz being "g*y" is a preference. while love is something that happens taht you can not control.

Answer 6

Well, being g*y is your own choice, BUT, however, if you fall in love with someone you didn't think you would, then you can't help it.

Answer 7

Being g*y isn't a choice though

Answer 8

All evidence suggests that being g*y is not usually a choice. So your question doesn't really work.

However, there are some people who do choose to become g*y. Most often I have heard this from women who were abused or raped and developed a revulsion to men. In this case, the answer depends a lot on how you define "love"

When someone chooses to seek a mate that is not naturally attractive to them, they are usually giving up on the kind of "love at first sight", "puppy love", or "youthful romantic love" that many people think of. Instead, they seek happiness in a more "learned" love that grows over time.

This is not limited to "people choosing to be g*y" though... Throughout most of history, people didn't marry for romantic love... They married for safety, security, food, etc. And learned to love each other while building a family and meeting the challenges of life together.

In summary, most homosexuals are born with a natural attraction to the same s*x that they can't do much about whether they want to or not. But the rare few who do choose to be g*y do not fall in love... They have to build love from the ground up.