If children die in care do those who get adopted make the others deaths acceptable?

Question

I spent the better part of the morning reading threw here and this is the common theme.

So a few kids die in care. They are helping a few at least.

So here is your chance to back that up.

Answer 1

adoption of some children does not make the deaths of other children acceptable- Kids should never die in care, due to neglect- and even if they die , due to natural causes- how could adoption make that acceptable?  I don't think this question even needs to be answered.

Answer 2

How can ANYTHING make a death acceptable?

Are you kidding me?!?!??!

And you're a teacher?!?!?!

I hope to god you aren't my daughters 6th grade teacher!!!

Answer 3

I read that too in many responses....

According to the pro-adoption and foster care people in here it is.

But no it's not. It's barbaric and a savage way to think....

Answer 4

No - no child should while in care from neglect or abuse!! In care - should mean just that -that someone is caring for the children not just warehousing them.

Answer 5

never. period.

i wont even bother to explain my point, it goes without saying. even a monkey could figure that one out.

Answer 6

no I don't agree with this theory at all !!!

Answer 7

You don't know what the h**l you're talking about! I guess, you can't educate the uneducated!

Answer 8

What does one thing have to do with the other. The death of a child is never acceptable.

I see you just joined today.

You also misuse the word "threw" the same as another member.

I hope you are really NOT a 6th grade teacher.....if you are......I really, REALLY hope you don't teach language arts.  Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are awful.

Answer 9

If children die in care do those who get adopted make the others deaths acceptable?  The death of a child is NEVER acceptable, and it is so insulting to ask this question, as if some of us are responsible for that.

How about the people who made these children and then were not responsible enough to care for them?  Or those who abuse children (adoptive or birth parents!) and have them removed from them?  Or those who sleep with who knows who and then struggle to care for the child alone?  How about those who relinquish their child for adoption?  Are they not responsible for their child's welfare and future too?  Sorry, we cannot behave in irresponsible ways and make babies, not take care of them, or allow them to be taken or relinquish them voluntarily, and then blame those who pick up where the system or others have left off.  No birth parent acting responsibly to place a child for adoption should feel guilty about others who are not raised well.  No adoptive parent should feel guilty about adopting and loving a child about other children who do not fair well.  And no adoptee should feel guilty that they were adopted and others die in care.  We must all work to insure that EVERY child has a safe and loving and permanent environment in which to grow up in.

Answer 10

I don't realy understand the question to be honest. Does one life justify another death ? I doubt it and I don't get what you mean.

If you mean that by adopting a child you save his or her life, then that's arguable. If the child was not adopted then would he or she have not lived anyway ? Surely you have to be born and alive to be adopted in the first place.

If you are suggesting that carrying a child to fruition with the intention of having him or her adopted is preferable to abortion, then yeah, I guess so.

Please try and articulate the question better....confused ???

Answer 11

Each human is unique and every situation has it's own circumstance...

If your idea was put accross the board people would say things like:

"Since the number one leading cause of death for children under the age of 14 are car accidents then cars should be abolished."

"Since some children die from the flu then no one should have children"

No death of any human life should be justified by the life of another....

Helping one child, one person and in whatever way we can is honestly the most that can be expected. No ONE wants to see a child die or suffer and most of the people working to help children are honestly doing the best they can within the laws and regulations...

Maybe it really boils down to the fact that MORE loving people NEED to step in and do their part rather than the system depending in many cases on situations that are not much better--or even worse then the reason a child is in care in the first place....  

Either way, I still drive my car and enjoy my kids even though the man who killed my 12 year old niece had done so before and drove drunk again...

Answer 12

No death is ever acceptable. There are a lot of abuse neglect cases in the foster care system, so we need to make better rules as to who is allowed to be a foster parent. Also it would help if we could get better parent education to prevent kids from needing foster care, get those foster parents better trained for when they are needed, and find a way to make adoption more accessible ( only financially and legally, we still need to have good homestudies/evaluations to keep the abuse from transferring to adoptive homes) so that some of the strain is taken off the system.

Answer 13

One child's death is one too many.

Answer 14

The death of a child can't be neutralized by a successful adoption.. one does not cancel the other one out, or bring the dead child back..