If he's not ready now will he ever be ready?

Question

After 2 1/2 years of dating and at the ages of 27, my boyfriend is STILL "not ready" to get engaged or even move in together. If it's been this long and at this age - if he's not ready now will be ever be?

Answer 1

That's tough to say. I don't know what's stopping him. I was in a relationship with the father of my kids for almost 5 years, had 2 kids, and he didn't want to be married...needless to say, we're no longer together. In my case, it was because he didn't want to commit to a marriage. You need to see what's holding him back.  

Answer 2

if you really love him give him time dont force it to happen just wait if you pressure him into it will only push him away or he'd propose just to shut you up marriage isnt something you rush into or force just be paitent and let things fall into place

Answer 3

Two and a half years is really not all that long and 27 really isn't that old.  I don't understand why you are in such a hurry to get married.

We don't know the whole story here and what his reasons are for not being ready.  It's something you'll have to discuss with him and something you'll have to either respect and deal with or move on.

Answer 4

I'm afraid you have a choice.  How important is marriage to you?  Is it something you're in no hurry for, it will happen when it happens?  Or do you need to get married in order to feel complete?  If it's the latter, I recommend you break up with your boyfriend because you clearly want different things in life.  You can find someone else, someone who want marriage as much as you.

Answer 5

everything in due time but maybe after another 6 months you should have the talk with him.after 3 years of dating he should know if he wants to marry you or not.just simply ask him what his intentions are.maybe he hasnt asked you yet cause he is saving for a ring.

Answer 6

He will be eventually. I would wait another year or so and then tell him you need to know where it's going. You might as well see what happens. If you break up with him, by the time you date, find someone new, date them for two years and then get engaged and wait a year to get married it will be 4+ years from now. This guy will come around before then.

Answer 7

Find out why he's not ready.  Talk to him and see if he even ever plans on marrying.  He may just be unsure if you are ready...  Once you find out why he hasn't asked yet you may find out he has good reason...  or he may just not be interested in marriage at all.  Until you ask him you'll never know

Answer 8

probably not

Answer 9

I would suggest you certianly do not need to push him. Some guys like myself are not prone to cheat yet nor are we prone to get married on a whim. Two and half years isn't even that long. Unsuccessful marriages---modern or contemporary marriages---we are familiar with do not last, as the stats will prove. All the older folks of today waited many years before tying it up. Give him some time, and he will give you a ring.

Answer 10

No. He is not committed to the relationship. I would give him until the end of the year to get engaged. Don't tell him what you expect. Just patiently wait. No hints, no demands, no begging or tears either. Then if he doesn't have the ring and date by the end of the year, just tell him that you are done. No tears or speeches. Just tell him that you know he is not at committed to the relationship as you are. Sad but true. I'm sure he likes things just as they are.....and probably has told you "Why get married and ruin a good thing?"

Answer 11

It is hard to tell. You have to decide if you are willing to wait it out. Honestly, you have to communicate your desires to him. If he isn't ready, you have to consider that 1. He isn't marriage material or 2. He doesn't want to marry you.

If you want marriage and he doesn't, you may have to move on. Trust me, there WILL be another guy. Don't settle.

Answer 12

what's the rush?

Answer 13

He's not ready to marry YOU.

You're not getting any younger. If you want to get married and have children and you're pushing 30 now... well, time to think about your future.