If he knows he CUMS quick, why does he penetrate so fast?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been having s*x on and off for 7 years!! Started when we were 18. We have broken up and gotten back together and recently decided to get together for the long haul. Well, we are both 25 now and fairly sexually experienced. But he still cums super quick. Not even a whole minute. I've given him oral, I've down-played how s**y I look before the act---but no matter what---he ALWAYS cums within like 30 seconds. It's so frustrating. And he PUMPS me Waaayyy to fast and hard. And Im wondering if he knows hes going to *** that quick, why not pump slow? I told him to go slow, so I can atleast have a chance to ***, but he'll start off slow for the first two pumps then he'll speed up like a jack rabbit and ***. I am so sexually frustrated. How can I tell him, that he has to last longer or please me better. He claims it takes 15 minutes to get him back hard---but then he usually falls alseep or acts disinterested in a round two. How Selfish!

Answer 1

Well what a bummer. I would suggest that you get him off oraly and OK so it takes him like 15 min to get ready again have him work on you keep him interested. Show him what you like, touch me here do this and that, until you get close let him see you *** at least once this way he will know how you look and feel. most guys even if they have had plenty of s*x think they know all about it, truth be told not really. They still need to be shown, you have to get back to the basic like bear bryant in the football thing. This is my C**t it needs up and down or side to side or near it, show him  how to reach your G-spot if you don't know it is inside you. you can become very aroused and might even squirt if it is stimulated enough. tell him you want to squirt he would love that. He can squirt and there is no reason you can not also.  

Answer 2

It's a behavior that needs to be broken.  You can work with him and teach him to slow down.

I have a friend that had premature ejaculation as a teen - he did nothing to stop it - and he still has it today - he's in his thirties and DIVORCED because of that very reason.

Work with your guy.  There are exercises that can be done BUT they will work better with medication.  He can tell the doctor his problem (it's no big deal and it's more common than you think)  Tell him to ask the doctor for Zoloft or Paxil, he should see a difference in about two weeks, but be aware, the dosage may have to be adjusted.  Once he is able to slow down, then work on the exercises and then he can come off of the meds.

Answer 3

You said it yourself.... SELFISH!!!!  

If this is a huge issue for you, it is unlikely that this relationship with last the "long haul".  (pun intended)

Answer 4

Seems like he is suffering from what is known as premature ejaculation.  He should get medical advice on how to control it.  It takes some doing, but he can learn to control it.

Answer 5

Males frequently are incapable of a "round two."     Don't ask for the impossible.

However, you are right in that he's selfish in not listening to you and controlling his body, so that you can achieve satisfaction also.

It would seem to me that you need to talk about this and settle things for once and for all, rather than go through a lifetime of frustration.

Why haven't you stopped him instantly when he speeds up?

He's obviously circumcised; that's why he needs to pump hard and fast; circumcision destroys sensitivity of the p***s, and he needs maximum stimulation to achieve o****m.

But it's not a speed contest, and he needs to have some coaching as to how to control himself.    

I think that he can learn to control this, but he has to WANT to.   If you don't indicate to him that you need more time to achieve satisfaction he won't know it.

He's not a mindreader, but he should realize that it takes a woman more time to achieve o****m, and he should try to be aware that it's far better for both individuals if they can both enjoy the s*x.

Answer 6

He's horny, impatient, has poor self control and is selfish. You need to tell him directly that he can make a concerted effort to slow down, control himself,  satisfy you in one way or another or that you will be forced to bring in reinforcements for him.

Answer 7

if he is circumcised he may need to pump that fast to keep the erection up since he has had all the sensitive nerves removed

http://www.nocirc.org/touch-test/bju_668...

Answer 8

Does he go "down" on you? you can try that

Answer 9

Selfish indeed.

I'll bet he feels inadequate about it too. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Sounds like his fast masturbation habits might be entering your bedroom. Tell him what you want and that if he can't give it to you, you'll have to go elsewhere.

Answer 10

sounds like PE, he may get 'beyond the point of no return' in that case it doesn't matter, fast or slow it's going to happen. its a psychological problem

Answer 11

immature and he has a lack of body control

Answer 12

Have you tried going on top? Being on top is less sensitive to him, and allows you to control the speed and penetration to allow things to last longer, and be better for you.

You can't exactly pull the he's selfish angle if you're just lying back every time he does it and you're not making an effort. You can also lock your legs around him to control the speed, if he's locked in he can't really go as hard or as fast.

Answer 13

say.. "slow down or i will not do it with you"

and if he doesnt have him like ... use his hand or something before

Answer 14

Although he's experienced, he still has yet to learn that a v****a isn't an inside out p***s.  His method of masturbation (and he's probably seen it in a lot of p**n) doesn't translate to what real women want.  He needs to slow down, give you proper foreplay (starting with conversation at dinner) and work around his premature ejaculation like masturbating earlier in the day or wearing condoms.

Answer 15

If you're having s*x with him, you should be asking him this question instead of us.

Answer 16

my answer to you is find a new bf hes into himself completely and your never are gonna be satisifed with a guy like that!!..I mean part of a realtioship is sharing your feelings with your partner..and sexually its so important that you are equally pleased as well as him he is SELFISH..and  not very loving if you want a good bf get back with me E-mail Ill show you what love is all about:)..talk care and if he doesnt start pleasing you dont have s*x with him..when he gets too H**ny h**l want to jump you thats when Id just leave and leave him in the dark!!