If i accompany my son in the preschool, until.........?

Question

my son is 2, i would like him to join the preschool because, he only face me and daddy, don't have chance to play with other children, and i teach him to recognise the words, he also don't want to see at all and lose his temper. that is the 2 reasons for me to sent him to preschool.

i accompany my son in the preschool, until he don't cling to me anymore which means until he familiar the environment, then i won't stay with him anymore.

do u think it is better to my son? do u think i am overprotected to my son? i drop by the preschool, no parent to accompany to them and let their children cry until their familiar environment. this concept for me is force them to familiar enviroment. what do think to treat 2 years old children some are even not 2 years old yet?

my concept is i want my son know lerning is fun, i don't want him to afraid the preschool. i want him to be happy.

Answer 1

As a preschool teacher I can tell you from experience that a parent that doesn't leave quickly actually increases the time it takes for a child to adapt to the school environment. Also statistically speaking these children usually score lower then other children because they don't socialize with others at the same rate other children do. In addition to that when these children have been tracked they have nearly 50% higher rate of being put into special day classes because they retain clingy behavior longer then other children; this behavior usually causes them to speak up less and be bullied more.

Answer 2

Im a child care teacher at smart readers and the from my information they will stop cry when they see others playing happily around.Just take 2 or 3 days time to make them friend with others.Dont wait for him coz it will make him not to friend with other even with a teacher...You will see a different after a 2 weeks time..cool

Answer 3

I don't really see any reason to just drop your son off and walk away like it means nothing to you just because "everyone else does it."  I think that protecting a two year old child is something that anyone can understand.  I don't believe just letting a child that young cry and then turning your back on him teaches him anything except that you are perfectly willing to walk away and don't care.  These same parents that do this are surprised years later when their darling little angels will get up and just walk away from their families.  If you must send him to public school, do so, but you don't have to hurt a toddler if you don't want to.

Answer 4

The more you stick around, the longer it will take for him to adjust.

There's the information.  Now decide what you'll do with it and how you'll handle it :)

Matt

Answer 5

kids will stop crying. my  sister works at an elementary school and kids are fine when they  cry. your just worried. they get over it after the first day or so, i promise!!!! after that they will make friends and learn !!!! they need to experience things. at least try it out! :)

Answer 6

When you get to school, hug and kiss your son goodbye, and leave. Have the preschool worker show your son that you have left by looking out the window. He will be fine once you are gone. The longer you stay with your son, the more dependent he will be on you and you won't be able to leave at all.

Answer 7

I think most reputable preschools would not have a problem with you escorting your son into his classroom. Not only does it allow you to see what is happening and who he is playing with, but it also allows the teachers to talk with you about any concerns or questions they may have. It may not be conducive to the environment to have you there for hours, but a few minutes in the morning shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 8

you are NOT being overprotective. he is still a little young to be going to preschool (it usually starts at 3) so don't worry about wanting to be there with him if he knows you are there to keep him safe, he will adjust much better. some kids take a few days adjusting, others don't want to be left alone for years (but still have fun when mom/dad is there).

if the preschool teacher (or anyone else there) ever tells you not to stay or drop by, pull your son out of that program. there should be an open door at all times.

Answer 9

Wait until he is 3 or 4 years old to send him to preschool and start him off for only 1/2 day for a while.

Answer 10

Take your child to pre school and leave him.  Do not stick around do not cling to him when he cries.  If you have done your research properly then you should trust the facility that you are taking your child too. Yes kids will cry but they will soon get over it and will be fine.  The more you hang around the worse you are making it.  And no your child is not too young to start going to a daycare or pre school.  With the amount of information that children need to know once they hit kindergarten it is very important that they get a healthy early start.  I have worked in the childcare profession for almost 8 years now and some kids adjust fast and some kids take time but the best thing is for the parents to just be honest with the child and let them know that they are safe where they are and that mommie or daddie will be back to pick them up.  Once they see that is true it wont be long before your son is having a blast and crying because he has to go home instead of because he has to stay.

Answer 11

I don't think you're being unreasonable.  Most preschools welcome volunteers.  Can you ask the teacher if you could volunteer some time?  In my classroom we are always glad to have volunteers!  And the children love to have their mom or their friends' moms come play for a while!  They may require that you get clearances if you are going to spend a lot of time in the classroom.  Don't be offended by this.  It is standard procedure and they should help you figure out how to get clearances in your area.

Is there a little bit of a language barrier?  This would be good for you as well!  You can accomplish a lot of things with this, spending more time with your child, helping to develop social skills, and working on language skills at the same time.  Don't be afraid to interact with the other children and staff, because children take their social cues from familiar adults in their lives and he will learn to interact by watching you.

your friend, Leslie B.  (feel free to email me if you want to)