If i already went to the Navy about a sailor before with these issues about him threatening me, what can i do?

Question

I'm a 28 year old woman, single parent.I stress out about this man. I've already been through emotional injuries with him. i do not feel safe to get a home or get a job by myself. all he does is taunt me and verbally threating me, keeps saying about taking my son out of state. he keep on taking me to court cause he doesn't want to pay child support. that's what the navy helped me on with the child support,and his ID.I 'm not able to get any help other wise I would done so.I other cops told me get he Navy on him.So here I am asking for someone to deal with him.I can't get a job or a home by myself cause i'm afraid what he might do to me. The reason that he has my cell phone number because to pick up his son.and cause he took me to court. we do not have a relationship at all, but we have our son, that is the reason.I need the Navy to counsel him. I think they don't know what he do, when he's off base. I want the Navy to put him in control. he needs to learn how to respect me. and just be quiet when he get our son.

Answer 1

the Navy will not get involved.  this is strictly a civil matter between you and him.  It's not the Navy;s job to 'fix' whats wrong with him.  If the child is not biologoically his, then the Navy cannot force him to pay anything.    

Answer 2

Don't buy into the answer that say this is not an issue that the Navy will deal with.  Many times the first couple of complaints are dealt with at the divisional level and that is usually enough.  In this case it sounds like it wasn't but at the same time you also sound like you don't have all of you ducks in a row either.

First, get an attorney (you have to regardless of whether you want to) who will help you get a restraining order.  At the same time, you need to get a court order for child support and/or establish paternity (if that is in question).

Second, at the same time contact NCIS and the Command Master Chief of the base where he is at.  They will take the next steps which will include an immediate Military Protective Order (which is temporary but serves to protect you a little further).  The Navy has administrative tools that can be used much quicker than any criminal or civil tools available.

Third, once paternity is established then the question in whether he is supporting the child.  If no support is being provided then have your attorney write a letter to the command and copy DFAS reporting the same  and they will immediately begin taking 75% of his base pay until he establishes an allotment.  This doesn't alleviate the need for a formal child support order.

However, with all of this being said, if your ducks aren't in a row or you can't establish paternity then all of this will backfire on you and he would have grounds to file a civil suit against you.

Answer 3

Civil matter, have the police there when he picks up and drops off.