If in the bible says that a man should not put his wife away unless she commit adultery. i still love her help

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If in the bible says that a man should not put his wife away unless she commit adultery. i still love her help

Answer 1

If you love her, then consider this; will you be happy if she is not with you?  If you cannot tolerate life without her, probably it will not be right to 'put her away'.  In  such cases I am always reminded of a story by Somerset Maugham, its name is Back of the Beyond.  Read it if you can get hold of it.  I have also read in a book on justice by a clergyman that fogiveness is the greatest penalty that might be imposed on a person.  I am not sure it works in every case, but with decent folks who know they have done great wrong, it works.  All depends upon how strong your mutual bond is and how much an outside interest can weaken it.  That is something you know best, but one must remember, to build something, it takes a long time, to break it is but a moment's work.

Answer 2

The bible says lots of things... I wouldn't let it run your life.

particularly when it also says that a woman who commits adultery should be put to death.

Answer 3

Move on. if she has cheated then she will do it again, she obv doesn't have the same feelings that you have for her.

You can do far better, If you have kids together then this is even worse.

Answer 4

Assuming you want to live by the Biblical rule (personally I think that's problematic, but it's your call) look at what's actually said. In logical terms the statement is "IF wife has not committed adultery THEN do not put her away".

It does *not* say "IF wife has committed adultery THEN put her away". The two statements are not at all equivalent. If she has committed adultery then the Biblical rule means that you *could* "put her away" if you want to (just as most civil legal systems allow adultery as grounds for divorce), but it doesn't say that you have to or even that you should. Look at the Biblical story of Hosea, whose wife repeatedly committed adultery, but he help forgiving her.

Whether you can get over this and make things work -- well, that's a matter for you and your wife to decide. The Bible leaves it open for you to stay together and work things out if you want to.

Answer 5

The Bible was written by people like you and me.  Be a man and use some common sense to guide you through life.

Answer 6

Forgive her, let it go.  do not be resentful, that's poison.

Answer 7

The bible also talks about forgiveness so why dont you just forgive her

Answer 8

???

Answer 9

.I think maybe you should sit down and talk about this issue with your wife. Evidently there is something else deeper going on besides the obvious (adultery). If you are both Christian and attend a church why not go to your (pastor) and ask he/she for advice? Usually they have helpful resources and can give you 'bible citations' and a better understanding of how to deal with this problem or problems in your marriage. Its just a thought or idea, if not you could consider a therapist or counselor as a 3rd party that would specialize in 'couple issues'. Sometimes problems can be fixed when someone on the 'outside' is looking in, they can usually give you a different perspective of the situation and hopefully come to a resolution

Answer 10

In the bible it also says that a women should stay silent in churches and not have authority over a man....

I think you should still respect your Religion but have faith in your wife to, if she has commited adultery talk to her before you leave her and if you feel she will do it again you should ask yourself, can you take the pain??  

Answer 11

Thats is the only reason why you can get divorced...he didnt say you have to

If you can work it out work it out

If she did anything other than adultery you would have no other choice but to work it out..