If kids are separated from their parents,under uncontrollable circumstances,is the Love still there from them?

Question

This is my circumstance. My Daughter and I have been separarate dfrom each other not by choice. We've had no contact for almost 3 years. She has lived w/ my brother, Sister-In-Law and my nieces & nephews.

I miss her so much that I could scream. Is it possible that there is still love there? On her part. She was 9 when she went to live with them, 250 miles from me.. I just want hope out there from parents and children who have had a similar experience or have been in the same scenerio. I want to cling to that she still does love me and will want to see me again.

Answer 1

It really depends on who is with her...if the people around her always tell her that you love her so much then most probably she still has her love for you. Keeping in touch with her will matter a lot. She should know that you are still there and want to be with her as much as possible.

Answer 2

you should aways love your child because u where the one who gave birth to her. An u should spent time with her. An let her know that your aways their fore her.

Answer 3

it depends on why you were separated

and it also depends on how the people who are raising her now think of you.

if you were separated coz you beat her up or something then you will have a hard time re-building trust obviously, but if it was for some reason like you were sick or whatever then there should be no problems at all!!

also, the brother and sister in law etc.... do you get along with them? are they doing you a favor or do they want to keep you away? do you know what they have said about you to them? if your on bad terms with them they would have been telling your daughter all sorts of things and her perception of you wont be too great. But if you get along with your brother and co, there is no reason why she shouldnt still have a good opinion of you.

if the situation was that you were good to her while you had her, then she will remember that. she wasnt too young to remember you and everything about your relationship you had with her. You are her mother and she probably misses you very dearly as well! Being separated for so very long would have had a devistating impact on her. It would have hurt her more than it hurt you. She is coming into her teenage yrs so now is the time to see her again... if you can. because its just before she starts going thru a time of great insecurity and self discovery. having re-established her relationship with her mother will help her sooo much! at least talk to her on the phone if you can!

its hard to help you out when we dont know anything about the circumstances, so i hope what i have said is relevant!

there is hope. Your her mumma, and every girl needs there mumma. She probably thinks about you alot.