If love is generally right, why does it sometimes happen with people you aren't supposed to be in love with?

Question

If someone is married, and you aren't their partner, you probably shouldn't be in love with them... and don't tell me that the person should just be a non option, people get feelings for people with the work with them and feel chemsitry...

Answer 1

I'm confused, I've never known anyone I wasn't supposed to be in love with. Can you elaborate?

Answer 2

Ppl can love anything i.e. fried chicken, cheesecake, a puppy, a child, a married person.....love can happen anywhere at anytime with anyone.

I think ppl allow themselves to fall in love with the wrong things/ppl.

Answer 3

Chemistry isn't love, although it can inspire it.

Love is generally right because it brings out the best in people, but you can't really have a right love if one person is living a lie because of it.

Sometimes, we fall harder than we would have, for the people we aren't supposed to, *because* we know that they are forbidden or inaccessible. That's not as simple as it seems, either. Consider, if he divorced and loved you instead, would it be the same as if you had fallen for one another as singles? I know it wouldn't be, but why not, is a tricky and subtle question to face and answer honestly. It's probably worth meditating on.

Answer 4

Life is a series of learning experiences , the love may have been right for the experience you needed, once the experience is learned it is time to move on  .In essence everything happens for a reason .  

Answer 5

What do you mean by "supposed" to be in love with?  

Love is always fine if it is given without any expectations.  Can you love without needing to be loved back?  Can you love without needing to express that love in words or actions?  Can you love and let that person go?  If not then I suspect there are emotions there that are other than purely love.

Answer 6

There is a very, very large difference between "love" and "chemistry." "Chemistry" is adult for "lust."

Love, aside from possibly hate, is by far the most overused word in the English language. I'm sure their equivalents in other languages share the same reputation, as well. 'Love at first sight,' which is what normally accompanies co-worker relationships is lust, not love. True /love/ is more than that gut feeling. It's being dependent on the other person - not fully, but enough to the extent that they are the most important person in your life - it's trusting them, it's being their best friend and they yours, its about understanding them and accepting them for exactly who they are, its being able to live with each other, its compromising and its work.

Co-worker relationships are friendships with a kick.

Marriage is so, so much more.