If men shouldnt be having s*x if they cant support a baby shouldnt women ......?

Question

If men shouldnt be having s*x if they cant support a baby shouldnt women that cant support a baby(financially, emotionally,and etc) not have s*x either? Or at least not get rewarded with a baby and money to raise it from lifestyle stripdown boyfriend if the women wants to raise the child HERSELF instead of giving to adoption( A family that the wife cant have a child but REALLY would love children) or (not a fan favorite) abortion? And if the women can take care of a baby(financially, emotionally,and etc) why do they jump on the man for child support if the couple is unwed and pregnacy was unexpected and he didnt want a child ? It would be cool if yall answered both question, I would appreciate it , so what do u think ?

Answer 1

I agree with you that it is the responsibility of both partners to try to prevent pregnancy. I don't think that anyone should be having s*x, unless they are prepared to deal with a possible unwanted pregnancy.

To your second  question, I think that if you both choose to have s*x and a pregnancy occurs, then both should make some decisions about what to do about the pregnancy. There is obviously going to have to be compromises on possibly both parts.

Answer 2

It doesn't mean you don't have to have s*x both parties have to protect yourselves if you aren't ready & willing to take care of a child..Point blank....

Answer 3

It's quite simple

If it's your body which has to carry a baby for 9 months don't drop your knickers so easily

No-one's forcing you (unless they are, which is a different thing)

Answer 4

Abstinence is only a sensible option if you suffer from problems down below. People should be free to have great nookie with no consequences!!!!

Here is an intersting website :http://www.malecontraceptives.org/

Although women have more 'choices' these are pretty c**p anyway, all hormonal based contraception has side effects and so I hear the abortion pill isn't much fun either.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, the issue of unwanted pregnancy is never going to be resolved... especially in a post on Yahoo! Answers.

The fact is that women get pregnant and men don't.  Barring major medical breakthroughs changing this basic biological fact of nature, this is always going to be the case.  The sets up a major dilemma for both men and women in all questions involving parenthood, reproductive rights, etc.

There are no easy answers and there are a variety of reasons why people get pregnant, why people stop wanting their children, why people want children even if their partner doesn't, why people need to have abortion, etc.  THERE ARE NO EASY ANSWERS.  It's all shades of gray with lots of exceptions and difficult situations.

Answer 6

Yea for sure, equal responsibilty all the way.

Anyone who says otherwise is a hypocrite

Answer 7

You have a good point there.

Answer 8

feminist's talking about responsibility makes me laugh.....

   Simple the current system is a huge advantage to female citizens.



         They refuse to accept a fair compromise because they don't want fairness,equality; it is all about superiority.

       They do not care what's best for the child only what's best for them. Whats best for the child is adoption not abortion but feminist's argue that it might be too hard on the mother.

Forcing some guy to pay child support even if the kid isn't his(paternity fraud) feminist yell and scream about what's best for the child.



Start talking about women who steal there partners sperm and they start talking about equal responsibility and what's best for the child.

     I am sorry but I do not tolerate hypocrites....

Answer 9

Personally, I think in poverty ridden homes, the girl having the baby feels she loves the baby. But, she later hates a toddler or child.  I am afraid more blame goes to the male because he is just playing a game and girl thinks their is a "relationship."  So, the guy will stick with her. They guy is not at a stage in his life or career where he can support himself.

Answer 10

I said it once and I'll say it again, we are all responsible for our "privates" and our fertility.  If we all do that...then we wouldn't have this problem. when u have unprotected s*x...pregnancy shouldn't be "unexpected" or a "surprise". That's ignorant.

Answer 11

Honey it takes two to tango, so a woman will go above and beyond to make ends meet especially for their child.  The women raise their kids and do diaper duty, doctor appts, etc...  While a man just has to pay up child support, and even that seems to be too much for the man.  When the child turns into an adult, THEN the father wants to be a dad, why???  Oh yeah, becuz all the hard work is done (thanks to the mom) and dad just wants to be pals, and be so cool. Well that's what happend to me, and my son will be 21 yrs old in Oct.  He's not stupid though, he knows I was mom and dad and he now realizes what sacrifices I made for him.  He thinks his dad is an idiot!!!  See I raised my son well, he's smart and knows whats up.

Answer 12

Considering that it takes two to make a child, both the man and woman having "consensual s*x" should both play their part in ensuring protection is used to reduce the chances of causing pregnancy in cases no one wants to have a child.

As for the woman wanting child support, It's just as much the fathers responsibility to take care of that child as it's the woman's, regardless of the fact in most cases the woman gets custody of the child. Your second questions also takes me back to my point about it takes two to create a child.

Most mothers want their children's father to be a part of their child's life, regardless of the grudges they may have with one another....

Answer 13

you have a million questions there. here's what i think about the general subject.

a woman's emotional attachment to a child disregards all difficulties - financial, marital, emotional, whatever. you CANNOT force a mother to give her baby to someone else!! offer child support instead. as a man it is hard to understand, i know.

the 21st century world we so proudly live in offers contraceptive solution for both sexes. why not have s*x? who or what made you come to that conclusion?

the last part, after the "and", puzzles me. it doesn't matter that HE, or SHE, didn't want a child! they BOTH are equally responsible for the fact that they are BOTH on their way to becoming parents. BEAR IN MIND that a woman is unable to do anything else BUT raise her child for a period of at least 3 years. why is the man always the one complaining? have you any idea what unexpected pregnancy means for a woman, especially when this happens early in her life, say until she's 22-23?!! that the following 3 years are educationally, professionally, and socially dead for her. she didn't want the child. "get abortion". true, it's a solution, i am in favor. but for a woman it is heart breaking to have an abortion. so she is now torn between choices A and B.

what would you choose? you know what? don't think too hard, because you will never experience such a thing. you should not be so radical on a matter you cannot grasp!!!!

Answer 14

yeh. no one shuld have s*x if dey cant support a child! there r alredy too many babies dat have died cuz of dat! i think they jump on da dude cuz they thinks its da dudes fault...

Answer 15

Your right, men shouldn't have s*x with a woman if they are not prepared to raise a child with her, and woman shouldn't have s*x with a man if she doesn't want him to be the father of her child. This is all very common sense, however, raging hormones sometimes throws that out the window.

Women jump on men to help raise the baby because it is his responsability. If he didn't want it, that is still a grey area in the law and by law he is still responsible, so its sorta his fault for sleeping with someone and not wanting to accept the responsability.

Answer 16

well i get your point and yes both women AND men shouldnt be having s*x unless they can support a child...

BUT i think if it does happen then the man definetly should have to pay for child support!! becasue the women shouldnt have all the responsibility....some people abortion just isnt an option and so it shouldnt be...its murder and they got themselves into it not the baby....