If my daughter and her freind drank alcohol at my house..without my knowledge?

Question

The mother found out. I called her. She threatend to call the police..she did not that night..if she would the next day or the day after...what will happen?...can i go to jail She swore up and down I bought it for them..that was not the case This is in Indiana

Answer 1

Just think that this country has come to such a nanny state that you would be worked up that your kid hit the liquor cabinet.

That's what kids do when they are home alone, it's called growing up.

Answer 2

usually whoever supplies the alcohol to a minor is the person who goes to jail. Even though you may not have bought it, it was in your house, and you are responsible for what goes on in your house.

Answer 3

Wow you might get in trouble for that. I think I would call the police myself and tell them what happened and ask them what you can do to protect yourself.

Answer 4

well you should probally get a laywer so that you can see what they say.

Answer 5

if you didn't know it was happening i don't think you will get in trouble. unless the friend told her mom that you bought it

Answer 6

This seem to be more of a custody issue than a criminal one.

From what I garnered from your story is this:

You, an legal adult, had your daughter who you have some degree of custody for and an invited guest of your daughter in your home.  Both your daughter and her guest are minors.

Do you permit your daughter to drink alcohol with you at your home --- this should not be a problem if this is  your custom so long as she does not leave the premises impaired by alcohol.

If you were not present when your daughter broke the house rules --- and gave alcohol to her friend --- Both your daughter and friend committed petty theft with disregard to their health.

You did not intend to provide alcohol to your daughter and certainly not to her guest.  So there was no intent.  You just can no longer trust your daughter --- was her mother up to something?

How did the mother find out?  Did you have a fight or tiff with your daughter and she reported the theft of alcohol as you providing it?    Did the daughter leave the house after drinking?

Now you CANNOT have your daughter over with guests and supply alcohol to all.

In our home --- my children are permitted to drink alcohol with family meals (wine) and we often sample home brewed beer made by the 3 children.   They are not permitted to drive after any consumption regardless of quantity.   [We live in WI.]

Answer 7

Regardless of who bought them the alcohol, you, as the parent, are responsible for what happens in your own home. Unfortunately, that's just the law. Why don't you confront your daughter about it?

Answer 8

The burden of proof with the law is that of "Provided".

Since they got the alcohol without your permission or knowledge.

I cannot see otherthen, the alcohol was know to be at, it was not secured, as in the case of a weapon, is the only possible way to get you.

Pretty far fetched. So make sure the alcohol is secured in a safe as i did so my kids never got to it.

Answer 9

I don't know specifically for Indiana, but if you didn't provide the booze and didn't know what was going on, you probably can't get in too much trouble.  Your daughter and here friend, however, could get in real trouble for underage drinking.  Hence she probably won't report it since her daughter would get in trouble too.  Unless she's crazy, in which case you might be screwed.

Answer 10

i wouldnt worry about it, they could arrest you for neglgance, they wont though, the other mother is dumb though, they very well could arrest her as well, calling the police is never a good idea unless someone is in immediate danger

Answer 11

Good luck . I would talk to a lawyer.

Answer 12

i just want to make sure no one here takes seriously the guy or gal that said "it's never a good idea to call the police unless someone is in serious danger", it's never a good idea to call 911 unless someone is in serious danger but for other stuff that's what your police or sheriffs department "non emergency" number is for (it's in the black section of your yellow pages phone book).  in this case if your really worried about it and you called my department (notably a very small department).  an officer would either have some good advice for you or even have a conversation with your kids about underage drinking, also the fact that you called and asked for help BEFORE she called and asked to press charges would make you look good and her look like an overbearing overractive uncoperative you know what.

Answer 13

How could she prove that in order to have you charged?  Maybe the police would file a report but Iwould it go any further? She is obviously just trying to off-laod on you the blame that should be directed at her own darling daughter.  Kids will be kids, when did things get so incredibly complicated!  Hope everythign works out for you.