If my husband knows that I'm not happy living with his family shouldn't he do something about it?

Question

Okay well his family lives with us, and our original plan was to buy a manufactured home, and add it in our backyard, however today we found out that the city won't allow us.

So, now our only choice is to build a home which will take months!!! I don't want to, shouldn't my husband do something about it? Knowing that his wife isn't happy? I'll admit it I get very moody!! But I miss having our privacy. I think he should put his foot down and realize that I'm not happy(actually he knows I'm not happy) and think of a quicker plan, even moving into an apartment. But instead he doesn't say anything! I hate it I'm soooo frustrated at the moment!!

Answer 1

Why don't you have his parents move into a Mobil Home. It is not expensive and they are out of your hair, and it is fast. It is just like a Mfg. Home, but they are not in your back yard.  

Answer 2

It's always hard when you don't get along with your in laws. The best thing to do is to tell your husband you two want to be alone ! You don't want to end up having confrontations with his family. I've seen this in a lot of marriages where the husband doesn't say much about the situation. Even happened with my parents. What you have to do is to live without your in laws. Do whatever you can to get away because it's the only way you and your husband will stay together peacefully. In the situations I've seen with my family, the wife always ends up getting what she wants and her and her husband end up getting away from the in laws. You have all the right to DEMAND this from your husband. Good luck !

Answer 3

Sounds like you are going to have to stand up to him and tell him that something has to be done and very soon.  Good luck.

Answer 4

Wait, does his family live with you or do you live with his family? If you are living with his family then you need to let him know that in 6 months that you'll be moving into either a trailor, apartment or a condo... Living with the in laws is no fun, I should know. I did it for two years and hated every moment of it.

If they're living with you, then you need to speak with him about having a family discussion about what their next step is. Obviously, they shouldn't believe this is a permanent situation, so help them find a place to stay or even get government assistance if they can't pay for themselves.

Every husband and wife should never be placed into that type of situation for very long. I understand that there is a need, but there is always a solution. In the mean while, stay strong and don't fight with them.  

Answer 5

You can still get a manufactured home and put it there. Just don't tell anybody about it. Do not tell your neighbors or the city what you are doing. If they ask. Just say you bought a shed and using it for your storage.