If roles were reversed...?

Question

If roles were reversed, and you were the husband/father instead of the wife/mother, what would you do differently to how your husband/baby's father does things? I think i would've made quite a good father/husband! Lol. I would have taken my wife a beautiful present after she gave birth to our child, I would've done everything except the breastfeeding in the weeks after birth as she recovered, I would've told her how beautiful she was all the time, and how proud i was of her, and I would've gladly taken the baby of an evening after work so she could have time for herself. But my husband is not one bit like this! Apologies for the strange question, I had a very odd dream last night...

Answer 1

I guess I am lucky because my Husband did everything for me while I was pregnant and does everything and more than you mentioned since we had our little girl 3 months ago. I've had pink diamonds, nights off, days at the spa, been told I was beautiful more times than I've ever known and I haven't changed a single nappy/diaper in more than a week. I'm not here to gloat as I still think he could do more but now that I've read this question, I think I might stop giving him such a hard time and start realising how good I've got it. Oh and did I mention that he does the night feeds?

Answer 2

It's easy to say you'd do all that stuff, and I'm constantly on at hubby to do more. But I often remind myself that he works so hard to keep the money coming in - often working 6 days a week and occasionally 7! I certainly think he could be more sensitive to my needs and a compliment now and then goes far - but he's alright as far as blokes go!

In all honesty, if we swapped lives for a week, i'd find his job far harder than mine. Maybe he thinks I should make more of an effort with him, occasionally putting on some make up and not looking like i'v been dragged through a hedge by the time he comes back from work, or just letting him have an evening off to do nothing - but he's smart enough not to suggest it! There are far worse men out there - he's not a layabout, he's not a big drinker or aggressive or violent. He does't gamble our money away and he's  great dad. What more could I ask for?

Answer 3

I think you're right in what you say, but men don't think like that, so they wouldnt react in the same ways, even if they were as nice as you.

Answer 4

That would be a dream if hubbies were all like that..  ;-)   but the truth is the only reason we could say we would be like that is because we have been the recieving end of some crappy stuff done to us.  and if they could switch roles with us they would probably do things they wish you had done for them as well...  men are just different from us ladies...   my new hubby is wonderful but he gives horrible gifts  LOL.. not because he doesn't care i think he just doesn't know what to get.. i would probably do better on the gift thing..   ;-)

Answer 5

Communication is however still the best key a sound relation.... teach him how to love you and ow you would like him to do thing. We men often think we know it all, lol. Teach him how.

Answer 6

I wouldn't have slept with someone else the day she gave birth to our child. I wouldn't have lied, cheated and stolen. I would have supported our son when we split up instead of pretending to, and there is no way I would have wanted to watch a football match more than I wanted to spend time with my child.

Answer 7

I'd develop this super-psychic ability to guess what the next craving would be so I could keep one step ahead as opposed to having it sprung on me when I'm relaxing after a hard day at work!

(my poor husband LOL)