If someone's husband is Obsessive and abusive and a drunk what should they do?

Question

my best friend's husband get's drunk every night make up thing's that didn't happen and slap her and the kids aroud and she calls me for help

what should i do i called the cops but she keeps letting him in he cheats on her and when were out shopping together he runs around looking for us this is crazynow i don't like to go out with her because one day he got drunk and started chasing me around what should i tell her to do??

Answer 1

Sorry, but you are endangering yourself by getting involved, and you aren't helping her because she is hanging you out to dry.  Join Al-Anon - and tell her about Al-Anon, which is for family and associates of alcoholics.  It will help you not to get sucked into the maelstrom.  

Answer 2

Go to shelter that specializes in abuse, and get the h**l out

Answer 3

You need to get your friend to a shelter as fast as possible.  They have professionals that are expert at dealing with abused women and helping them get out of bad relationships.  Forget restraining orders etc...they are worthless as the paper they get printed on.  But if YOU are with her and this a*##hole starts chasing you around and makes any problem, call the cops IMMEDIATELY!!! Do NOT wait, threaten, plead-NOTHING.  That will show him weakness and that is what a weasel like that preys on.  You call the cops, press charges for WHATEVER and get his *** thrown in jail.  Tell your friend good luck.  And the last thing is PRAY!!!

Answer 4

Encourage her to go to Al-anon and leave him.  She may be addicted to his chaos.  Don't get caught up in it.  Al-anon is probably the best place for her to learn how to handle an alcoholic spouse.

Answer 5

Hey, you are putting your life in danger by hanging around with your friend.  It's sad, but she really has to be the one to say enough is enough.  Offer her assistance one more time, and if she doesn't accept..then let her know she is on her own.  

Doesn't it hurt to see someone you care about put themselves through h**l for someone who isn't worth a dime?  Don't hurt yourself anymore.  Either she quits him..or you walk away.

Answer 6

tell her that she HAS to do something. counsuling, and the cops cant really hurt the situation