If someone gives a present at a wedding shower is that it or do they also give you a gift at the wedding

Question

i know this sounds selfish... i am trying to decide whether to send out and write thank you notes now or to wait until later

Answer 1

Of course you will also get a wedding gift if you got a shower gift.  You send out a thank you after you have your shower and then you send out a thank you after your wedding.

Answer 2

You send out a thank you note for every gift you receive, on every occasion you receive it, even if you end up sending the same person two in the end.  

They could have thought like you and said....well I'm going to the wedding so I'll just skip the shower gift.  If they didn't, you don't!

Answer 3

You have to write thank you's for your shower, regardless. You'll want to get them out of the way anyway because you're going to have so many to write later after the ceremony.

Nothing is obligatory when it comes to gifts so don't assume there's another one coming.  Most people do - but it's not a requirement. If someone gave you a large, couple-type of present it's likely that's your wedding present. If they gave you something more for you as a bride, that's most likely a shower gift only.  

Answer 4

You should assume that each gift you get will be the only one from that person an (even though most will get you a wedding gift too), and write your thank you notes immediately. You'll need to write another one for the wedding gifts you receive, even if they are from the same person.  

Answer 5

One gift is generally the rule.  Get your thank U notes done and in the mail - one less thing on your mind.

Answer 6

Stop being lazy and just write the thank-you notes.  There is enough to do after the wedding without this extra piece as well, not to mention that it is rude to thank someone for two gifts given at separate times within the same note.

Answer 7

I did for my shower as well as for the wedding. What my MOH and the mother of the groom did before she passed was have everyone who was invited to my shower bring a recipe or two so they could put together a cook book. This has helped me tremendously.  

Answer 8

They will probably give you another gift if the first gift they gave you was at the shower and then they come to your wedding.  So, you should certainly send a thank you note now and if they give you another gift you should send another thank you note.

Answer 9

they will probably also give you a wedding gift.  Unless you wait to long to say thank you for the shower gift then they will think you are ungrateful and maybe won't buy you another gift...write the thank you's as soon *** possible.  you will have to write another for after the wedding.  If someone can go out of their way for you the least you can do is thank them

Answer 10

send the thank you's out now, & if they give you another gift later on, acknowledge that too

Answer 11

You need to send out thank you's now for the bridal shower gifts, and then also ones for the wedding gifts. 2 seperate ones even if someone gets you a bridal shower gift AND a wedding gift. ( which most people do)

Answer 12

I totally agree with MsKristenK. It's the perfect answer!

Answer 13

I think most people will bring a gift to the shower and to the wedding. But I would send a thank you note out after the shower also thanking them for coming.