If someone gives you advice or suggestions on something, are you "obligated" to follow it?

Question

Why do people (family, friends, professionals, etc.) consider you hard-headed if they give you advice that you don't think will solve your problem?

Answer 1

Because all of us think we are right, and that you are disrespecting us for not acknowledging this by taking our advice without question, LOL! But seriously, asking for advice is exactly that.  You still have to weigh the options and make your own decision.  What if you asked our advice here in this forum and got 10 different suggestions for courses of action?  Are you obligated to carry out all 10?  Of course not. And the same is true of real relationships with real people.

Answer 2

no, your not obligated.  It's called advice, not commands.

Answer 3

If you're truly looking for advise, and not just someone to vent about something to, then speak to someone that you feel is a person who can relate to the situation and give you good direction.  Don't look for advise from someone whom you don't believe to be of good character.  Basically, stay away from the idiots.  They're usually the ones to get mad when you don't follow through with what they had to say.

Answer 4

Unless you specifically ask for said advice, then no, you're not hard-headed if you don't follow it. But it does annoy the **** out of me if someone asks for advice, doesn't take it, then complains about the problem afterward.

Even if you did ask for the advice, you're not obligated to follow it, but don't expect to be given much more advice (helpful or not) if you keep ignoring it.

Answer 5

You are only obligated to die and pay taxes.  If someone has given you advice and you don't want to follow it then don't!  If the person asks why you have not followed the advice then give them a reason if you feel you should.  Do you believe the advice was wrong?  Was their solution to hard for you to do?  Or did you just put it off?  Honesty is always the best policy.

Their advice might be the right thing to do and then again it may not.  If I were the one seeking out advice about a topic, I would want several sources of information.  That way, if I am truly undecided about something, I can go with the majority of opinions as opposed to the minority.  

Answer 6

Are you asking for advice or are they all offering it up?

Because everyone thinks their way is the best. It is good to get opinions, but in the end, you have to do what you think is right for you...UNLESS, you have the same problem over and over for years and do not do anything about it-then that is different...Then no one wants to "hear it"...

Answer 7

No there is no obligation.

Answer 8

No you are not obligated but do not ask or get mad if you don't like the answer either. I usually say I am taking a poll or I want your opinion on something. I think if someone asks what should I do and you tell them and they don't do what you say then they should not come crying to me because they didn't listen to what I said; they should go bug the person that told them whatever. I don't want to hear it again or to try to get them out of whatever trouble or problem they are in now because they didn't take my advice. Sometimes people asks the same questions over and over to see if you will give them a different answer I guess I have a friend that does that and it drives me nuts.You can do whatever you want with your life but don't ask me to help you if you already made up your mind to do it another way, that is what is called hard headed to me. Have you said to them nicely, thanks for your advice I'll have to think about that or I thought of that but I don't think that will help thanks anyway.

Answer 9

This q is too vaugue. If your mom said "don't have s*x, your too young", it's probably good advice. If ashe says, "you need to cut your hair" then it's up to you. Although, if a bunch of people tell u to cut your hair, u should think about it b/c you probably look like a douche.

Answer 10

No, you are not obligated to follow advice.

The best way to avoid unwanted advice is to keep your problems to yourself.  

Answer 11

Those people giving you advice are older, therefore they have been through the same or similar situations as you. Most people that give you advice, care about you and probably dont want you to make the same mistakes they did. Your not obligated, but if you ever heard this saying, Only fools make mistakes, wise people learn from the fools mistake. I follow it, because everytime i made a mistake, my dad had already told me the outcome, and as he said it happened. So now, even though sometimes I think its lame to listen to your parents, they are right most of the time. They just want the best for you, your immature right now, (even if you dont want to admit it), so anything your parents or elders say will seem dumb and unreasonable. BUT its NOT. It makes sense in the end. They consider you hard headed, because you make the mistake when they told you NOt to do it. Your the only one who ends up loosing. Just try it for a week, take their advice and see if they are right. Dont be so naive. ;)  

Answer 12

No, you don't have to follow their advice, Just say something like "Thank you for your concern"  "I'll keep that in mind"  

Answer 13

no obligation @ all. as 4 the rest,its simple most every 1 thinks they know every thing so when u do things your way & get it rite it proves them wrong.

Answer 14

if you have no thought process of your own then yes you are obligated... that's why they call them suggestions and opinions, other people are giving you their opinions so you have different options on how to deal with situations... why would you have to do what anyone says.. you handle it the way you want to .. that's why it's called you life!!

Answer 15

because when someone looks at a sistution from the outside sometimes they are more right then wrong!

but by all means your not being directed to do their suggestion or advice!

some get mad when you don't or say i told you so!

that's when you look at them and say

sweet!  i learn in my own way!  thanks again for the suggestions!

maybe next time i'll try it!

Answer 16

no......

Answer 17

it depends