If someone harmed you, will you hate his whole family?

Question

when i was young, a man took me inside a building and sexually assaulted me. i was scared for a long time and had nightmares every night. i developed depression and post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of it. i had grown up now, but i sometimes still find it difficult to put that incident behind me. i recently met a girl my age and got to know her. later i found out she is that horrible man`s niece. should i avoid her? since her uncle was a bad egg, would that make her a bad egg too?

Answer 1

It won't make her a bad egg but you haven't come through your crisis properly yet so keep her at arms length.

Answer 2

No. Your feelings are more important than his.

Answer 3

no of course not.  but it can be hard to get past the association.  maybe it would help to find a counselor to talk through your past experience.  but if it's too much for you to be her friend, don't force yourself.

Answer 4

no! it's not her fault  that her uncle is a jerk.

Answer 5

recently i have been getting some angry feeling towards mexicans because my grandma was in a hit and run but good samaritans caught the illegal b*****d, and now my family has to pay for medical bills because the guy was a poor A$$hole. ironically one of my friends is half mexican so i have been trying to hold back any hatred toward the whole group because one person does not represent everyone

Answer 6

No, but only you can decide if you can overlook that issue

Answer 7

Don't blame the niece it had nothing to do with her. Safer not to continue association with niece as this may lead to contact with the uncle.

Answer 8

no its not the families fault that this man did that to you, she is a serperate person with different morols and upbringing, he was just the bad egg, i would be hurt oif some one hated me for something a family member did

Answer 9

Her uncle was bad n horrible BUT not her. Why should you judge her just because they're related. You have to put your past behind you, or it'll grow like cancer in you. Its a horrible monster in your closet that will eat your happiness away. My dear, you have to let go n live for today n the future. Let the past be an experience, that all.

Answer 10

No. Its a huge thing you have been and are going through but you shouldn't judge people in that way. It must be hard to trust some people after the ordeal but you can't live your life assuming everyone is a bad egg.