If someone is Addicted to Drugs will they ever Quit and what way is a good way to HELP?

Question

Help! I have been with someone for almost 6 years & found out he has a drug addiction. I do not know what to do! I have stuck with him because I love him and I always think that he will eventually let it go because his moral aspect in life, at times he does but then goes right back at it! Before he would do it out in the open to me that is but now he does it behind my back and I have to act like a sneak in order to find it out, and I hate that because it is not the type of person I am. Sorry but I need some advice in what to do, in this case I want to leave him but then I feel like I am letting go of something that is good, but bad at the moment?!? I am dreaming of the good but then the bad is what kills it. What should I do?

Answer 1

you booze you loose *****. Dump the man, hes a ******* drug addict.  

Answer 2

did u try rehab.. they can quit but depending on which rehab they might go back.... or u can put try to put them on that show intervention but i doubt that u would get on it .........

Answer 3

Ohh my God do I really have to answer this question. I am your boyfriend! I have been a serious drug addict and alcoholic for over 15 years. My poor girlfriend has heard every lie I've stolen money or lied about where it went but it always went towards drugs or alcohol. she has been through h**l and back, but she has stuck it out for 4 years. My heart is filled with remorse and pain just to think of what I have done to myself and her life. Yet she stayed by my side knowing in her heart that I was full of potential yet seriously troubled. All that being said, I have for the first time on my life decided to seek help. (I'm crying my eyes out right now) She suggested long ago that I seek mental heath professional to unload these feelings I have tried to subdue for my whole adolescence and teenage years plus my entire twenties. 6 days ago I finally saw some one a psychiatrist I was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and given a mood stabilizing drug called lamictal also a sleep aide called ambian cr. Tonight was a bad one for me, however , I feel much more stable my impulsiveness has faded and the desire to drink has subsided 90%. My desire to do drugs like smoking pot or eating Oxycontin is still there but I did enough drugs for 10 elephants. I'm sure I got your boyfriend beat! This being said, He is the only one who can convince himself to get help. You can not do this for him, I know. He will eventually get sick and tired of being sick and tired and do something. You should suggest he get help but no ultimatums it won't work he'll tell you to hit the road. I've been clean for two weeks my brain is returning and I'm waking up to a whole new and better world. There is hope. I love you for letting me answer this one because if you both can get through this you can get through anything and that means Me and my girl can do it. Love does not choose easy paths. Let your boyfriend read this and if he has any questions E-mail me direct;y and I'll give him my number and show him the path to recovery. Good luck I'm sorry please E-mail if you have any questions or want to talk to my girlfriend.  

Answer 4

Do not support his addiction.

Support his recovery.

Meaning, do not do things that will help him find, get , or afford drugs.

You need to create a "rock bottom" for him, weather that be kicking him out if he doesn't get help, or turn in his dealers, or just ending the relationship.

And also, if you need good advice as to what to do with addicts, i would watch "Intervention"

Its on A&E on Mondays around 6 or 7

Answer 5

I don't think anyone can give you the advice you need and I can only tell you what others have told me.   You cannot help a drug addict.   They have to want to stop for themselves.   They don't stop until they hit rock bottom.   About all you can do is tell the person what you want to happen and be prepared to leave if it doesn't happen.    I'm sorry I can't give you a solution.   I am dealing with a daughter who is using drugs and keep trying but getting nowhere.   You have to look after yourself at this point and accept things as they are instead of seeing it how you want it to be.    Take care and good luck.

Answer 6

Well, as a therapist who deals with addicts let me be the first to tell you that he needs treatment.

His life is clearly unmanageable, doing things his way apparently is not working out for him.

Now, the question of "Do addicts really ever stop". I hear that everyday and it's different for each individual person.

Some stay sober for years and never relapse. Some relapse and go back into treatment. They're all different.

It's all about a treatment plan and sticking to that treatment plan.

You shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to know what's going on. This is affecting your life as well and you have every right to know what's going on.

The thing though is honesty, it concerns me that he's not being honest with you about his addiction.

You need to talk to him about this, treatment I mean. If he says that he has it under control then clearly he may have good intentions, but that's not enough.

There's always NA (Narcotics Anonymous) and AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) these are good resources, but I've seen many people fail from this because the root of the addiction is never touched on.

Best of luck, to you and to him. He needs to talk to someone though... and right now you can be that motivator.

Answer 7

What kind of drugs is he using? Edit your Q and add it in and then I will answer more because it just depends on what he is using and what his excuse for using is.