If someone is in the Special Forces...?

Question

Is it worth trying to have a serious relationship with them?

I've heard a lot of women say that it's a terrible idea, and they will most likely forget about you once their gone away...

How long are they usually gone for? Are there any pros or cons about being with someone in the Special Forces..I guess one con is not seeing them very often...Anything else a woman should know before getting involved with one?

Answer 1

IDK, the divorce rate for a special forces soldier is very high

Answer 2

go for it, but just know that the nature of his job means that he will be doing some real dangerous things that he wont be able to tell you about and that he could be gone for months at a time, special forces is a lot different than the main force

Answer 3

You should NEVER have to "try" to have a relationship with anyone.  It either happens, or it does not.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter what your boyfriend is if you have a true relationship with him you won't be forgotten. If you are just a roll in the hay then it is likely he will find someone else. But that would be the case if he was in the service or not. So go for it.

Answer 5

If you have to ask if someone is "worth" getting involved with, then you probably aren't ready anyway. No one can tell you if a human being is worth your time (regardless of what he does for a living) and no one can tell you if he will forget you when he deploys - that depends on your personal relationship.

I've been in SOF my entire military career and it does take a toll on relationships. We're gone a lot and when we aren't, we're training or just hanging out in the team room with the guys working through new ideas. I can tell you that I've never cheated on someone I was seriously involved with while TDY or deployed and I certainly haven't forgotten about them.

There's really nothing a stranger can tell you about your own personal relationship. SOF guys are not all the same, we are individuals. Some guys sleep in a different bed every night, some have been married their entire career and some have been divorced four or five times.

It takes a lot of work to keep any relationship going and even more work when you're gone from home so often. If you're willing to accept what he does for a living, support him in that and he's willing to understand your concerns and take that extra time to ensure you're happy, things will be fine. Not easy, but fine.

Best thing I can tell you is take it slow, get to know the person and don't worry so much about the job until you need to.

Hope this helps.