If something goes wrong in labor i want my baby to live

Question

you know sometimes they say "the baby or your wife".. well im going to be delivering alone and if something goes wrong i want my baby to live, how do i make sure they know this ?

Answer 1

You can tell the doctor but usually they tend to the one who has the higher survival rate.  If the father isn't around then you would need to actually see an attorney to kind of write a "will" and say who will have custody.

What is with the thumb down?  It is true.  

EDIT: after reading what Bosox said you are sick.  Why would you do something like that.

Answer 2

That really doesn't happen often.  Maybe it does on TV, but not so much in real life.  At any rate, if it's really concerning you that much, talk to a lawyer about drawing up papers stating your wishes.  

*ETA* I agree 100% with Tinky Winky.  You also said you thought about telling your ex that one of your babies died to make him feel bad.  http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Talk about sick!  Really, you don't sound mature enough to have a child.  There are many mothers who actually have lost a baby, and you thought of making up a story like that for attention?  All I can say is that karma is alive and well - remember that.

Answer 3

With every pregnancy, there are all kinds of things that can happen to you or the baby, but more than likely WILL NOT!  It's normal for you to be apprehensive and it's quite adult for you to consider and plan for some options.

A living will is always a good thing to have, especially if you are the adult and there are children to consider or your parents who might have to make the final decision if something happened.  Since you say you're delivering alone, I am assuming that the baby's father is out of the picture.  However lots of legal battles have been fought by fathers of babies who were thought to be absent.

Definitely have some type of instructions written up and signed by you in front of witnesses as to what you want to happen if some medical condition happens that leaves you unable to make the decisions for yourself and your baby.

Just because you're preparing for an unforseen disaster to happen, doesn't mean it will.  You're just wanting your wishes to be taken care of.  People of all ages make sure their loved ones understand how they want their properties and their last remains to be handled because they want to spare their loved ones the agony of deciding during their grief and anguish.

Think more positive thoughts though like what names you want to call the baby, who'll you want to help you with the baby when you go home, what you're going to have for lunch today........happy thoughts make for a happier person.  If you're always preparing for disaster you're going to make yourself miserable.

Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your baby.

Answer 4

Make a will with the help of an attorney and state whatever you want to in that will.

Answer 5

this crossed my mind also..yes i am married to the baby's father but he is in Iraq now and was un able to be there with me. My mom was my coach though labor(even though i had a schedule c-section) i told her straight out take the baby and make sure he is healthy don't worry about me. I also told her if it was me or the baby. MY wishes are that he is alive and if they need any blood and I'M a match take blood from me for him. I want him to be able to meet his father and for me not to be selfish.  

Answer 6

Personally you shouldn't even be thinking like this ..you need to relax and take it easy ..no one ever wants to make this decision but what makes you think you will have to ..relax its not good for you or baby !

Answer 7

You questions make me laugh ..a few weeks ago you were worried how you will look on the pictures when you give birth and how you wanted hair extensions in your pictures ..very childish !