If something really happened,which is not what you expect to have happened,what would you do?

Question

Will you consider going back to the origin of the whole thing?What is the best way to deal with a situation like this?

Answer 1

Life is a chain of events. Things can happen to you without your control or anticipation. In my country, there is a saying which expresses most clearly our inability to control the situation, or our lives: "It is us who act, and it is the God who decides the success of what we did". Of course, you should not look at it in a disapointed or pessimistic point of view. Anticipation of the good outcome, the orientation, the purpose in doing something will invariably be better and highly appreciated. What you need to pay attention is that your actions are affected by many factors that you cannot always control or think that it may affect your results. You may deduce what are the bad things you must not do or avoid. Someone might say you cannot change your destine; and if that happens, you should not ask yourself too much because you have done everything. You have to accept it. Can you change what has happened to you? I'm sure you know the answer. If you live in disappointment or sadness, sometime in the future, you may realise you have wasted a lot of time over unimportant things

Answer 2

nothing, what can I do ?

Answer 3

it's called life. i move on.

Answer 4

Something happened. Already did. Can we turn back time...? No. We have no control over it. The most healthy thing I feel would be to accept it happened, maybe take our time getting over it and learning from it, becoming wiser from it. Don't see bad things as bad. See it as stepping stones. It is hard to feel this when we are suffering or negatively affected, but, usually, when we look back, we are likely to feel that it was all for good.

Added: forgot to mention about your other question...whether we go back to the origin of it. Yes, sure, you can, and we all do. But try to make it productive. But if u r thinking bout it over and over and making yourself miserable, and condeming yourself or the other person or the situation, then it's not helping. One can go mad doing that. I have been there. I feel analyzing too much is counter-productive.

Answer 5

This happens a lot.  No, I do not go the origin of things, I deal with whatever happened (whether its good or bad) and move one.

Answer 6

I'm the type of person who never shies away from the future. If something like that happened to me, I would just try to continue on through the situation and hope for the best...as my dad always says, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." So I would also try to look back and think of how this unexpected occurance helped me grow, so then I could be better prepared in future similar situations.

Answer 7

Yes.  Mentally retracing the chronology helps determine where your mind departed from reality.

Answer 8

Even if you did not expect something to happen and wasn't prepared for it at all, you would still have to face it and deal with it because once it has happened, you cant really change it after that. You could look back on the whole scenario and try and figure out how?, why? but it still wouldn't change the current situation at all. Sometimes unexpected things happen to us and we have to deal with them the best way we can...