If there was such thing as psychic connection how can you control it?

Question

If you were able to unconsciously connect mentally with people you are close with, say friends, spouses, family, etc… It doesn’t matter if you are close in proximity, they can be miles away. However, you are able to pick up on their thoughts, dreams and actions infrequently like an antenna and are able to know the exact moment they are dialing you on the phone or are thinking about you and what they are thinking. It can happen while asleep or awake. If you had this ability, how could you take it from subconscious to conscious and be able to control it, so you can turn it off or turn it on at will?

Answer 1

You Can't turn a psychic connection  off at will. If you have it try to keep it a secret by not insulting them if they are insulting you in their head. They won't know what you're talking about.  

Answer 2

That is the million dollar question that every government would kill to have the answer too. I believe people have the ability, but like you say it is random and achieved unconsciously.

I don’t believe you can turn it on and off at will unless you can figure out what triggers it in the first place. If it is happening unconsciously and randomly that would be difficult to determine.

I also can see how this could be a blessing and curse at the same time, since you are like an antenna and all the noise and visions you are picking up from people are bombarding you on a daily basis making it difficult to focus on anything. However, I believe it would be easier to stop it than control it, because you can always find something to distract you so you can’t focus on all the noise. Controlling would be a nifty trick.