If this was your son's sexuality issue what would you do?

Question

My good mate, James, was caught a couple of days ago by his father in bed with two transexuals. His father is into the matcho scene and was plenty angry to find his son with a couple of lady boys. Anyway, James is 16, possibly confused or trying out what he is. But his father has got crazy, and wanted to take a crow bar to his head for being a wierdo. Yes, I think it is weird. Cos James who I knew for years has never been into other men, but by his own admission, ladyboys have something special and are nice people. How would you react if this is your boy? I have no idea what to say to his father or him to handle the situation. Did you try ladyboys when you were only 16?

Answer 1

Advise, advise, advise. DO NOT Push push push :) HELP. . . OUT.

Answer 2

Do not say its wrong or whatever just support him

tell the dad to back up because its not wrong to like guys

no i didnt try ladyboys when i was 16 :)

Answer 3

I think you secretly want a lady boy..............

Answer 4

Any child going through anything like this needs love and support, not judgement and condemnation. Let your friend know you are there for him and will stand by him no matter what. Only he will work out whether it is a phase or an experiment and he should not be forced into making choices simply because those around him might not agree with what he is doing now. All you can do is let him know he is not alone. Good luck,

Answer 5

Well you could start by not referring to transsexuals as 'ladyboys'. By the way, this does not necessarily make him g*y. Be supportive of him and stop seeing this as 'weird', he's a teenage boy and may not know what he wants yet. Just continue being his friend, it's not up to you to judge him.

Answer 6

Maybe he thought they were regular ladys and was surprised himself

Answer 7

mkay

his dad's nuts... i mean, .. okay i can't express my discust at this

Answer 8

Honestly I would be mad that he was having s*x at 16, but I would not be angry that he is experimenting with his sexuality. I am 17 and g*y but have not had a relationship yet, and I know how hard it is to be g*y and feel like nobody likes you just because of who you are attracted to.

Answer 9

sexuality is not only a difficult subject for the parents but also for their sons or daughters

however, perhaps it would be good to note that the son in this case is actually experimenting with his own sexuality which sounds as if he is doing a lot more than his father who seems to think that violence is a cure for this.....

to be honest who, but a neanderthal, would try to fix something that he perceives is broke by hitting it with a crowbar?

I cant see anything wrong with someone wanting to experiment with their own sexuality it shows courage.

James is 16 in under 2 years he will be 18 and an adult at that time he will be free to choose for himself to be sure though his father's reaction will have but one outcome and that is that James will move out [if he is not kicked out beforehand by his father] he will try to go to a place that is more comfortable for him and his own sexuality.

if this is the case then i suggest Brighton as this city is one of the most laid-back accepting cities that i have visited

Good luck to James and Dont forget it is HIS life we are talking about here NOT his father's so what is best for James is of paramount importance here

With regards to the poster directly below this post

16 is the legal age in this country i cannot see how you could be mad about someone who has waited until he is of legal age to experiment with his sexuality

Answer 10

everybody has a right to their own sexual preferences. I feel for the father in this situation and James did not have any right to be doing such things under his fathers roof.

If he was with men he is g*y. I think they all need to talk about whats going on and set down some ground rules as to what is acceptable behaviour, the father needs to respect his sons lifestyle but the son needs to repect his fathers feelings and his fathers house