If we drive 5 hours to where our family lives, why can't they drive 15 minutes to meet up with us?

Question

We took time out of our schedules, took off work and made the trip. So why can't they (brothers, sisters, and their spouses/kids) make an effort to meet us? Why do we have to make another trip to see them at their house? We give a month's notice before we come.

Answer 1

You are too nice for them. I wouldn't put up with that! My 2 sisters and brother are like that. Big shots, I'm nothing! Black sheep of the family, I do not visit them anymore. The only time I see them is when they go at my parent's which is about 2 or 3 times a year and that's more than enough for me! You should do the same if they don't make any kind of efforts to see you. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think you should go to their house where they can better entertain you.  Why should they drive to hotel or put down money in a restaurant when they can entertain you a lot more affordably at their home?  

Answer 3

They are the hosts, you are the visitor.  So visit.

Answer 4

Telling them your coming to town and planning a get together are two different things.  If you really want to get together with them you apparently are going to have to also plan the time and place with them.  Sorry to say going out of there way to see you on your vacation may not be as important to them as it is to you.

Answer 5

because they are inconsiderate

Answer 6

They are lazy and selfish

Answer 7

family is like that there are givers and then the takers. stop giving and see what happens then.

Answer 8

I'm assuming you want to meet them at some place in the middle and/or they happened to be in your area.  If they were already in your area and didn't meet up with you 15 minutes away, that is rude.

The only thing I can come up with is that it is easier to have one family drive to where the rest of the family lives rather than have the brothers, sisters, spouses, and kids drive a caravan to meet you.  If you mean why can't just a brother and wife drive to meet you, yeah, it's selfish.

Tell them that you can't afford to see them as often due to gas prices.  (That's what... a tank and a half round-trip?)  If they don't like it, tough.   That's the price you pay for living 5 hours away from each other, unfortunately. :(

Answer 9

That's inconsiderate of the family members if you took the time to plan somthing and they wante dto see you they should take the time out of their day to see you since you have for them. Especially if the plans were made in advance.