If women don't want to be seen as s*x objects?

Question

...why do they still dress sexually?

Even the most sophisticated ladies can be seen wearing outfits that clearly turn men on.

I have no opinion on the matter, just wanted to know what women think? Surely the answer is not to cover everything, but sometimes it can be confusing when women in p**n and glamour girls are totally seen as degraded and then half the women in the Western world on a Friday night dress like them...

Answer 1

I can dress how i want. If i choose to dress s**y what RIGHT does ANY man have to look at me or get turned. No don't give me that c**p "clearly turn men on" purleez. What items of essentially cloth and material i put on should not effect anyone else.

Answer 2

I agree everyone has a different opinion on "Dressed s**y"

A cute tank top and a pair of jeans that accentuate your curves can look really s**y.

A sophisticated skirt, heels and a fitted shirt can look s**y.....

I think some guys just look at the definition of your curves, even if you're covered up or not showing everything.

Answer 3

I think most women who have grown up in the culture we live in battle this dilemma daily.  The dilemma being that we are taught that our only value as women is in how much male attention we can get, yet at the same time feeling angry about that fact and not wanting to only be valued for our ability to attract men.

And, quite honestly, I don't think most women even know that this internal conflict is going on inside them.  So, women who may dress the way that pop culture tells them they should in order to be considered attractive are often struggling with the fact that they are still not really in control of what kind of male attention they are receiving.  

And, for the record, you don't have to be dressed like a p**n star or Paris Hilton to be commented on, stared at in a creepy way, or degraded by men.  For me, I think that is what sometimes bothers women the most... regardless of how we dress or what we look like, men (and, to be fair, other women) feel it is somehow their right to comment on both how we look and how valid they consider us to be sexually.

Answer 4

This question has been asked so many times before. The real, honest answer is that women want to seen as s*x objects only by men they find attractive.

Old man admiring their mini-skirt: "Eww...look at that creepy old man"

Handsome, young man admiring their mini-skirt : *smiles and makes sure he gets to see from a good angle*

Answer 5

Dress? never wear on a night out always jeans! You need to define tarty stuff! To me its a just under butt skirt, 4 '' Heels in white OMG worse! tatoo's legs/ankles with ankle chain! Sleeveless top OMG lycra (at least 7 others have same) tatoos on arm/arms. Dark nail polish lotsa rings. Spray/false tan streaky and a pvc clutch bag with stones/tatt!

Answer 6

Yeah I couldn't agree more.

They dress sexually to turn men on and then complain when we look! I don't understand it.

Answer 7

son, you will never understand the wonderful world of

women. =]

have you ever heard of approachable yet unattainable?

Answer 8

Being s**y isn't the same as being s s*x object. Being a s*x object is only that, nothing to do with the person, just s*x. But being a person that is alluring, attractive and s**y whilst having a good personality is different.

If a guy think I'm s**y, that's his problem as it's not like he's going to have me.

EDIT:

And if a guy or gal sees me as a s*x object then I see them as nothing but an inferior piece of s**t on my shoe.

And as someone said, s**y is subjective. I don't wear recvealing clothes but people think I'm s**y when I'm wearing a black jumper, black knee length skirt, black tights and boots. Or when I'm wearing jeans and my hubby's tshirt.

Answer 9

Dressing nice help some feel good about their selves. It is a false view of self esteem,They should work on themselves inside.

Answer 10

Women have b*****s and a body shape that is completely different to a man. I wear outfits that look good on my body shape and just because you can see my body shape doesn't mean I'm dressing to be viewed as s**y or to be seen as a s*x object by men. Its not my fault if my normal, ordinary clothes are turning men on, many women like men in suits, does this mean that a man who wears a suit to work is wearing it to turn women on? I do not dress for the purpose of turning men on. I have a body shape and I don't want to wear a giant bin bag to hide it.

Answer 11

It is easy for women to send mixed message. What's really important, is that men react to her maturely.  I don't accept that dressing s**y is just cause for being a s*x object, even though there are women out there who are doing just that.

Its the man's job to determine that before anything else.  If you are a woman who does not being looked at in that way, you might, just consdier dressing a little differently.  It is not 100% the man's fault.

Answer 12

More a case of

If women are in the SLIGHTEST bit attractive, why can't men control themselves??

Answer 13

Perhaps a man's view of dressing sexually is a woman's view of work clothes or jogging clothes or normal casual everyday clothes? How do you propose we dress so as not to confuse you by thinking we want to be seen as s*x objects?

Answer 14

There is a vast difference between wanting to be seen as sensual and wanting to be seen as any type of Object. A young, pretty woman in a scanty dress is saying, Look at Me, I'm attractive, I take care of my body. Sometimes she is also saying, I'm available. She is NEVER saying, by choice of dress, Rape Me!  Or I'M EASY, spend 20 bucks on me and I'll do anything! Those are male misconceptions.

If you can't tell the difference between a Lady of the Evening and a woman celebrating her femininity, you need to get out and date more.

If you believe that it is the duty of a woman to keep herself covered to protect herself, whether your belief is religion inspired or prudishness, you are objectifying women, believing them targets, not people,  and saying that men are such base idiots that they can't be trusted to NOT rape.  If you believe that a woman's body should be seen only by her husband but that her husband can look where he wishes, you want your own private s*x toy. You don't see women as humans with rights and feelings. OK for you, not so good for her.

Answer 15

cos its fun, basically.

Answer 16

nature

even males don't want to be seen as s*x-maniacs..  still, we take a second look.. and enjoy it.

Answer 17

How do you know that the women who dress sexually care whether they are being seen as s*x objects or not? Not all women are feminists-lol.

Just because you're a feminist doesn't mean you have to wear sack-cloth--so if someone sees you as a s*x object-that's their problem.

You're implying that feminists are the same women in p**n and glamour-a few are feminists but not a lot-lol.

This is a common logic error to say that women dress like s*x objects-when not all do; and then to assume that the women who dress like s*x objects even know what feminism is. Feminists aren't prudes but they're usually average women-not like many of the p**n stars or actresses or little rich girls who act out like silly fools.

Answer 18

There's a difference between dressing s**y and acting like a s*x object. Any given woman in a provocative outfit can also have a brain and a personality and want to be respected for those. Women who want to be treated like s*x objects don't care about that.

Answer 19

I'm a female and I don't dress provocatively.

Answer 20

Ok, some do, but some really don't. Not all women are the same, when will you people realize it?

Answer 21

As long as the good looking rich guys or the top notch L*****n (what ever turns you on basically) looks at you like a s*x object, then its ok.

We are humans with a brain, dont let the femz tell you that women dress that way just because they can.

It is much like a poor person walking into a rich store selling diamonds and dont get service and only get looked at like they are going to steal something.

Answer 22

They want to be attractive to the opposite s*x, just like men do.

Answer 23

I think it degrades men.

Forced to look and like it!! We haven't the strength to turn our eyes away!

Temptresses!!

Answer 24

I think that women will always want to be desired. But they dress well to compete with other women too, more so than men to be honest, if a woman feels that she is the ugliest woman in the room, she is naturaly depressed, but if someone is checking her out, though she may then complain about dirty old pervs, she likes to be thought of in a sexual way. It is possible to dress REALY provocativly, and not stoop to wearing nothing but a smile. When I go out with my friends, I wear a pencil skirt (knee length), a corset over a loose shirt, and red lipstick, add fishnets, gloves and heels, and bingo, you cover yourself like a nun (or not) but men still see you as a s*x object, you make more of an impact. Being a s*x object is not necessarily a bad thing, it meens you have power. Women know that, and they like it, they just pretend they dont.

Answer 25

He's not weird, he's right.

There are women who are always yelling s^&& about not wanting to be seen as s*x objects, but dress to leave nothing to the imagination.  They're dumb^&*&*.

Not all women dress like that you know.  There are still many women who dress respectfully and appropriately for the environment they're in.  

To the women wearing very low-cut tops and bathing suits in general public areas: what do you think you're representing yourself as?  You will be treated as such.

If you dress your daughters in miniskirts and sports bras: what happens to her is what ya'll asked for, and you will be raising a grandchild soon.

Answer 26

Yes, many gals give lip service to a sexless socialist ideal, even while dressing and acting like waterfront floozies.  You'd do well to ignore their psychobabble (which is just a reflex learned from the public schools)--and focus instead on their actual behavior, which revolves around s*x.

Answer 27

The problem is that "dressing s**y" is a very broad and vague term. For some, that could mean showing as little as their wrists or ankles. For others, that could mean wearing form-fitting clothes that aren't otherwise revealing. How are women supposed to dress?

Answer 28

By your logic, then, should we all dress like men in order to NOT be seen as s*x objects?  Particularly if any effort a woman makes to make herself look attractive or well-groomed is interpreted as "dressing sexually" (in reference to your comment about "sophisticated ladies")?

Some women actually do that, but then they're labeled butch, man-haters, feminazis, bulldykes, et cetera.  If a woman only has a choice of being seen as a  "s**t" or a "bulldyke" then I would suggest the problem is with the cultural expectations, not the female behaviour.

Answer 29

If as you say u have no opinion, on this, then why should others give you theirs?

Answer 30

Yyour question includes the  subjective factors "s**y."  The answers that you get are subject to what people think is s**y and therefore that is not valid.

When you may think a lady dress s**y someone else might think the opposite.

Still, the idea of being seen as s*x objects, is not a nice one. I wonder if it is a true idea or just a negative thought of negative women.