If yoru child just had a seizure would you take them to daycare?

Question

I work at a gym in the daycare.. and this mother brings in her two boys... one which is 4-5.. she tells me.. oh he just had a seizure this morning.. so he might want to just lay down and fall asleep... which he did for a good 30 minutes well tried to at least, there were other kids there making noise and what not.

OKAY, why would you bring your child after a seizure to the gym??

so anyway, then after about 30 minutes he tells me he doesn't feel good and wants to go home.. i find his mom and tell him and she says "give me 30 minutes"

am I in the right to say something to her? I want to tell her off, but i don't want to get in trouble at work either.. his brother said he has had 3-4 of them before.. and that his mom didn't ake him to the doctor with this one(his brother is 8).. i just wanna b*tch slap her.

Answer 1

I'd love to slap the c**p out of her myself but she's not worth getting arrested over and it wouldn't help the kid.  A child having frequent seizures needs to be on medication. If she can't afford it there are programs she can take advantage of to get the medication her child needs. There's no excuse for her behavior and you really should report her to your state's children protective services. Go to your state's website and find the department that deals with children's issues. In my state the agency is called The Department of Children and Families. There will be a child abuse hot line you can call. I strongly urge you to do this. This mother's attitude puts her child in a lot of danger. I doubt that they would take the kids from her - unless they found other abuses during their investigation. They would probably refer her to agencies that could help her son and they would monitor the situation for a while. Please, please take this action. The calls are anonymous.

Answer 2

she's just a selfish narcisstic b*tch. I'd ask your supervisor what to do.

Answer 3

the 8 year old may not nessisarily know if he has been taken to a doctor. He may have been at school. But after a seizure a child (or adult) needs to sleep. He needs to be home in bed not in care so mum can work out. This is the mother putting herself before the wellbeing of her child. You need to talk to the manager about this and the mum needs to be told he is not to come after a seizure and next time you tell her he is not well do not take her "just 30 more min" tell her "NO and she needs to come get him now as he is not feeling well"

Answer 4

Heck no!!!!!  Especially not to the gym daycare!  This woman can't skip the gym for the day??

I don't think you can say anything to her though, it's not your place.

Answer 5

Why didn't you call CPS?

Answer 6

you should definitely say something . that is putting you in a predicament. it's like she s setting you up.

Answer 7

I would report her to your supervisor or to someone else, because if it's true that he continually has seizures and no one has taken him to the doctor, he could get some serious brain damage! The poor kid! If it were me and my kid just had a seizure, I wouldn't be able to even go to the gym let alone put him in day care that day!

Answer 8

Well a seizure itself isn't anything to worry about, it's the cause.  It sounds like this child has an underlying cause of seizures (epilepsy, or something similar), and if his mom is aware of it and taking care of it, then yes, I'd take my child to whatever after an episode.  If he has repeated seizures and she always kept him home, she'd never leave her house.  

Now, I'd be scared if he seized in my care, so next time I'd ask her why he has seizures, and what you need to do if he has one.

Answer 9

Do you know if he has epilepsy? From the way you said 'his mum didn't take him to the doctor with THIS one' suggests she has before, right? Which means that the matter will be being investigated.

So the doctors will have advised her as what to do. If someone has epilepsy (or has the possibility of a seizure disorder) there is no need to take them to the hospital every time. Seizures themselves are rarely dangerous unless they last a long time or do not terminate by themselves. It sounds like the mum has it pretty much under control. Think about what you would be doing if your kids were having seizures?

You might like to think you'd be at home with them all the time, but how is the kid going to feel about that? It'd make them feel like they were making the home life difficult. The mum clearly wants to keep life as normal as possible, which means taking the kid to his regular activities. It's better for him if there isn't a big deal made out of it (seizures can be distressing, embarrassing etc enough without having a big fuss made over it).

Yes, he was tired, but that's perfectly normal. Perhaps you can just have a word with the mum and ask her to explain the situation to make you more at ease about it?